Should You Consider Freezing Your Eggs in Your 20s?

it's interesting I get this question quite often and I had no emotional response towards it I saw it as just a

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data point in my story interesting like this is just part of the story and it's

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something I did and I don't I think motherhood is so beautiful but I think

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you can be strategic about it [Music]

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well I am so excited to welcome our next guest we have lots to talk about and lots to share because you are our

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youngest guest that has frozen her eggs um and I think as a 20-some year old you

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can offer a whole new perspective so I want to welcome Shania to our podcast welcome to quiet the clock and thank you

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so much for being here thank you so much for having me I'm excited I think when we re when I reach out to you I said we

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haven't had any 20y olds on the podcast we did actually have a 29y old when we

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filmed in La that episode is not out yet but you're still the youngest and if you could walk us through sort of how you

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learned about egg freezing what made you think about Family Planning and egg freezing at 25 years old that would be

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amazing because I think you know I was sharing off camera one of the intentions of starting these conversations

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cultivating these conversations is to just inform more women and as someone that did this in their 30s I felt up

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against that clock and I think if we can Empower and inform and just educate women about this they have that

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information to make the decision sooner so I would love to hear your decision-making process how you learned

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about this yeah so I it was December it was Christmas it was Christmas day

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December of 2022 and I was eating ice cream and brownies and my sister comes over and

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she's like so have you ever thought about freezing your eggs and I was like what are you talking about what did you

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think when she said that like you're just like enjoying Christmas day my family was around she's just like

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casually dropping the bomb and I was like I've never thought about it nor do

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I know anyone my age or in my age range thinking about it have you heard anything about that before your sister

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that's so funny you're the second guest whose sister called them out on a holiday I had another guest it was like around the Thanksgiving table and her

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sister was like when are you freezing your eggs so our I guess our families are looking at us yeah and you know I

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think life gives you Whispers so I think this was like a whisper for me to think about it I love that I love that my

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sister is a physician and I am in healthc care I'm doing my PhD and so in

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just the ecosystem that I'm in I've heard about it and I know the research on it and I know she has just such an

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evidence-based perspective on it so I trusted her perspective when she brought it up to me my brother then just chimes

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in yeah you should think about it I was like okay and so fast forward I did my

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own research I did my own Discovery on the internet I didn't find very women sharing their experience from a patient

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angle on no and in in an authentic way like what was the day-to-day like like

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did you have to take time off work like those were all the questions I was asking and so I scheduled an appointment with my fertility doctor Dr Garcia you

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know what was the the timeline between like your sister whis giving you this whisper and to you ending up meeting

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your fertility doctor because I know in my own experience a lot of women that I spoke to the decision process the decision- making process is long and we

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sit with that and it's a hard decision and we'll get to this but I want to talk about sort of the difference of doing it

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in your 20s versus doing it in your 30s but what was that timeline like your sister says this to you and you're at

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the doctor's office yes so it was Christmas December 25th I got the whisper okay and then it was mid January

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I had my first consultation so it's about a month you move fast yeah I think there was three reasons why I did move

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fast is a I was on my parents insurance and it covered my medication before I

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turned 25 oh my gosh okay so did you turn 2 my birthday is February 27th so I

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was like okay we have to act fast uh so they that was one factor factor two was

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just knowing I'm in school so my time is a little bit more flexible and this is

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the youngest and healthiest my eggs will ever be yeah and so I had the first consultation and just doing my own

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research on clinics that had the highest live birth rate in Canada what that which is so smart so smart because

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especially here in New York now there's a lot of these Boutique places that offer all these things and I'm learning

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now where my journey is is like the labs matter y the CL the the patient experience matters and so I think that's

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amazing that you did all of that research and so I had the con I felt

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comfortable and you know typically and in Canada I recommend every Canadian

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it's free to go have a consultation with a fertility specialist and have your ovarian reserve tested because you need

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to know what your ovarian reserve is before you're even eligible to have the egg freezing procedure oh is that right

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MH so it tests egg quality egg count and how receptive your ovaries are going to

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be to the medication I don't think we I mean I could be wrong nobody like quote me but I don't know if we do that here I

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really I don't know I'm trying to remember so for me it's now like almost five six years ago that I froze my eggs

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they tested um amh and FSA I don't I don't think they tested all of that okay

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we'll chat yeah yeah that's well our healthare systems are so we'll talk about that too but okay so you're they

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do all this testing and they're like you're a great candidate and they were like okay let's

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get started and I was what were what did you feel like when you I have a couple questions one was your doctor surprised

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to have a almost 25-year-old sitting in front of them no no no she was so happy

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I bet she had gone through IVF herself and she was like I wish I did this at your age and I just she also has a Blog

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on social media so she was like if you share anything like I want to reshare it I want to talk talk about it on social

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media because people freeze their eggs and most and this is the narrative that it's reactive not proactive totally

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totally I mean this is like this is why this podcast was born because it was my story of being 37 and feeling like I'm

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up against this clock I have to do it and then as a therapist hearing so many other women's stories in the same boat being like mid to later 30s and we were

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reactive and that's why I think your journey is amazing and that you shared your journey is amazing because we want women to be in a more proactive space

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not reactive space and planning and it's okay to plan tot I love planning I wish

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i' planned sooner yeah but yeah yeah yeah yeah so uh yeah that was that was

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pretty much how it started and I had some plans around my birthday and I just

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really had to figure out what was the last possible date I can do this procedure um under Insurance how did you

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feel emotionally leaving your console did you feel excited did you feel

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overwhelmed like I know I left my consult with like a range of emotions like how did you feel how did you feel

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overall like yeah I'm just curious emotionally what what was happening for you it's interesting I get this question

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quite often and I had no emotional response towards it I saw it as just a

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data point in my story interesting like this is just part of the story and it's

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something I did and I don't I think motherhood is so beautiful but I think

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you can be strategic about it yeah I I want you to share that too because I think your reasons well give us the

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timeline and then I'll get into all the other questions so I started my egg freeze 14-day I would say it's a overall

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14-day cycle uh around early March so this is actually my Oney year univ uh

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Oney year anniversary yeah oh my God happy anniversary perfect perfect thing to be doing on your anniversary I know

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and so from day 1 to day 14 every morning I had an ultrasound blood work

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work every night around 600 or 7 p.m. I had my shots and I essentially did my

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trigger shot which is the day before your retrieval at a Leafs game we have

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the Toronto Maple Leafs isn't that funny where do you have any other funny places that you had to do shots I've done my

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shots like when I was like freezing like in the back of a car about to go into a concert in the city like because we were also we were saying off camera like life

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does not stop no so how did you yeah I would curious like more funny places you had to do your shots and and how did you

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manage the logistics are tough like it's it's real like life doesn't stop I was still seeing so many clients so I'm like

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racing to my appointments trying to see clients I'm sure you're like racing to classes like how did you fit it all in I

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I'm very very grateful for my support system so my family my boyfriend my sister they were all there through this

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process I think that's why I also felt very comfortable going into it like with a logical perspective is because I had

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my sister as this encyclopedia uh you know sharing the studies that I should read sharing evidence because

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being in a PhD I don't make decisions without data and so I just live my life

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that way and so egg freezing is just a data point yeah and so reading all the

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evidence I'm like I find very I find so much comfort in data and you just go in

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more informed and empowered yeah exactly and the process was really smooth I

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actually moved home at my to my parents for the actual 14 days because it was closer to the clinic and the clinic

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staff they're an all female team and they were just so welcoming and so lovely that I had a great time honestly

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great time 10 out of 10 would recommend what I hear a lot here unfortunately and

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not everybody's experience is the same is and I'm curious because we do have very different Health Care Systems that

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women can feel like on a conveyor belt when they're doing this experience and it sounds like you had a very different

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experience you didn't feel that way not at all I had extra video filming time as

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well with my fertility specialist I saw that I saw that and I I felt very

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supported yeah yeah I think that's so huge like to have and you're mentioning you know people outside your doctors

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like your family your partner your sister like it's I always reiterate and reinforce like you have to have a

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support system in place because it's so it's so taxing you know even if it's like you're not good with needles and

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you want to have a girlfriend there to do shots I think or just someone to talk to or vent like I'm I'm at this game and

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now I have to go do this sh like I think it's so important to have that PL and everything you did before freezing like

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doing the research having your sister as this other you know resource of knowledge is really sounds like it set

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you up for success with this experience I'm super grateful and I would say to Every Woman even just thinking about it

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you're on the fence about it do your research be informed knowledge is power

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and there are so many AI tools nowadays as well if you aren't from a science background and you're a little bit

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unsure on how to read a research paper oh there are great tools out there that just can digest it for you and give you

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the main points yeah because Google is not always your best friend no do not Google this Google don't Google don't Google

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yeah so did you well any other funny places that you had to do your shots besides the it's the public washrooms

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for me you know you're in a stall and you hear women coming in and you they

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have absolutely no idea what you're doing behind the door I think it's like so fun and and it's like it's like

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flirty I call it flirting and enthusiastic like it's just like so sneaky uh but the the hockey game was

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the funniest because you have to essentially you're going into this huge game where you can't take needles oh my

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gosh so how did you in so you have to give your freezer bag to security and then security has to put it in the

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freezer cuz well or the fridge yeah right right and that's a whole process you have to

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bring paperwork it's it's you have to plan yeah well and for those listening to might not know why you have to kind

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of do it at these funny places is because you have to do these shots at a certain time so if you don't want life

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to completely stop and you still want to go out and there's events you want to go to you have to find a spot to do it exactly yeah wild so did you so your

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story went viral like did you go into this knowing that you would share it on social media

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I was never going to share this online really ever I was like no way that is

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way too intimate of a subject I also in Academia people don't have social media

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publicly other than if they were only sharing the research oh is that right so for me to share my life it's it's Taboo

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in and of itself and so I am nervous just even talking about the fact that I have social media in the academic

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setting and so I was like oh no way am I sharing this because if my team and my

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colleagues see this it's just it seems unprofessional that's the narrative and

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that was what I was going with until my sister and my so my boyfriend is also a physician okay they both were like Shia

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no like you if you're comfortable you need to share this because we don't see

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the patient experience enough even as people in medicine and yeah because even

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if you're the doctor you don't unless you've lived it yourself you don't know the Pati experence and they were like it

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the fact that you're young you have such a different perspective to share than anyone else doing this that's it when it

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is reactive versus proactive and your perspective of just how you plan your life is so fascinating that that would

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be helpful for women and then from a cultural perspective I my parents are from Trinidad so I I'm not from India or

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anything but I think I can represent the South Asian community in a way that culturally many people have pressure in

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the household that you have to go to school and then get married and then have kids that's and that's your story

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that's the path yep that's supposed to be yeah that's it yeah and so I think pushing back on that was very powerful

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for me to be able to speak to and you know share with women just that doesn't

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have to be your story absolutely not and usually it's not everybody's story and this is you know the intention of this

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podcast of quiet the clock is we do feel those societal pressures or those timelines that are laid out for for us

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just like you said and we turn around and we don't meet those and then what do we start saying about ourselves we start blaming ourselves we start feeling bad

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we start comparing ourselves to other people so I love that you kind of stepped outside

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of what is expected in Academia and social media and just said there's a bigger there's a bigger reason here

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there's a bigger purpose yeah and through that there was three main groups

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of people that I found resonating with the content in different ways there was group a women who were in my age range

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and they were like wow like the fact that you can just plan and think about options for your future self is powerful

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and that's inspiring me to think about the same or even just do my own research yeah and B there was a group where lots

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of women in my messages would share their infertility Journeys and share

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like oh my gosh I am 50 now and I wish I talked about this when I was younger and no one talked about it when I was

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younger and looking back like I'm I wish I had someone like you at your age

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sharing for you to get those I cried a lot I bet cried I cried a lot I

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felt reassured in my decision to share it on social media could not be more validating could not be more validating

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and then there was group three where a lot of people had the perspective why do women need to plan why do you need to be

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thinking about this probably coming from men sorry they were coming from men

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sorry and it was like that was shocking to me

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that perspective which granted whenever videos go viral there's polarity in in

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the conversation totally everyone has something to say yeah but I think you know we were saying this off camera too

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it's like as women we have we have been shared like very little and we're I

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think having to have these type of conversations or sort of Forge our own path to our own research and we have

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known so little and Men know like nothing so I think it's important for men to hear these stories too and

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understand that there is this biological clock it's a real thing like there is pressure to that and if we're not

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planning ahead you you can find yourself in your 30s later 30s like with feeling

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like you're running out of time and so I think they need to be informed just as much as we do well I think for many of

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us we all want a meaningful life totally and I feel again for many of us we don't

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want to live with reget what is the best way for your future self to not live

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with regret I love that it's to plan I think we are so great at planning in our professional lives but why can't we take

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a a step back and look at our lives from a third perspective and plan yeah which is so why your story is so powerful

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because I think in your 20s we're or I just share me personally in my 20s I'm I wasn't thinking about Family Planning I

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also wasn't thinking I would have to think about Family Planning right so you're sort of sold the story and this

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fantasy and timeline that like you will meet that person and you will get pregnant easily and there's the way pick

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a fence and it's not not the case so I think those narratives reinforce this idea like you won't have to worry about

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it so I wasn't worrying about it and I think a lot of women were not worrying about it until you had to worry about it

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which is why it's so amazing that you're you have this voice now and I appreciate you being here sharing your story

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because I think a lot of women should plan and think about the future and think about and not just in career or

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like where you want to live or what kind of maybe you maybe have a goal to buy a condo whatever but yeah what do you want

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what does your future self want in terms of family and motherhood and if that's

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something you want right get very granular with your dreams and your goals

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is that something you want what does that look like and asking yourself that those really hard questions I think we

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all I I call it being a fertile fairy I think we're all sold this narrative in elementary school high school when we do

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health class that what's happening in health class like I don't know what happens in Canada but like nothing's

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happening nothing's happening in health class you're you're sold the dream that you meet a boy and you have sex with a

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boy you will get pregnant also don't get pregnant because it's so easy to get pregnant so it's so easy to get pregnant

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and so we're sold that narrative so every woman lives their lives me included until my sister had this

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conversation on Christmas day that you can just get pregnant whenever you want

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whenever you're ready you can snap your fingers and it just happens and that's the conversation I wanted to push is you

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could egg freezing as side just talk about your fertility understand your fertility go I think also too for at

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least a lot of clients I've seen women I speak to there is this fear around going to get their fertility check because they're afraid of what they're going to

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find out and I do know women that have gone sort of on a whim and and it it was

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not good you know and so you're sort of sent into this like Panic of what do I do but if having information is better

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than not because then at least you can plan and make a plan yeah I love two things that you said one about regret

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and regret was the reason that I actually chose to freeze my eggs because I when I went to my console at 37 you

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know I didn't have the money to do it I didn't have any coverage for anything and it was so at the time I didn't I

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couldn't afford it um and I was also like okay I will go into debt for this

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but I don't even know what I'll get I could get an egg I could get two eggs I could get nothing and so there was all this fear

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and uncertainty around it and then there was you know the emotional also this emotional layer of like oh my God I have

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like I why am I here like why am I having to even make this decision and I finally said to myself I do not want to

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regret not doing this no and that was like the what pushed me over the edge to do to make the decision so I I

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wholeheartly agree with that like no regrets you know and I was saying to you off camera too like your future self if

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you have to use these eggs will be you probably already already so damn proud of yourself but you will be so grateful

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and proud of this vers young version of yourself that thought about the future version of yourself well I think about

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life like a book I think that you're creating the outline and you're filling in the details and so if you're thinking

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about the next chapter or a couple chapters ahead how can you work towards planning the details and planting the

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seeds for those future chapters to go as planned and I think it comes from having

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a very clear vision of what you want your life to look like as well I don't think we're taught in school how to

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plan the dreams and aspirations that we have and how to create the pathways to

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get there and professionally but also personally and socially and yeah in

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every facet of your life so I think it comes down to what does your dream life look like and then work backwards yeah

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and I think what's so unfortunate but I think there's this shift happening absolutely especially with these type of conversations of encouraging young

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people to think about what they actually want right when I was growing up it was like go to college go into business like

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the bo they like someone else de side had the boxes and it was no one saying like what do you really want and I

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thought it was really great what you said to decide even if you want motherhood because just because we're women doesn't mean we're meant to be

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mothers or we have to want to be mothers and I I come across this so much in my work where women are like I don't feel

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this desire to be a mother what's wrong with me I'm like nothing's wrong nothing's wrong with you right and so

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getting really clear on what your own vision is based on what you actually want not what you're told to want

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exactly and things change so for example now I can see myself having kids in a

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decade but that could be earlier and that could be later but it's giving your future self options options 100% well

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you've sort of throughout our conversation shared reasons why but can you more specifically share like why was

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it important for you to do this now you know what was what were your reasons for wanting to freeze your eggs now three

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main reasons number one my insurance coverage yeah there you go that's a big one medication is expensive it's crazy

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expensive this process is expensive so medication coverage was one number two this was I know like when I close my

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eyes and I Envision my future life I have kids I don't know when but I know I

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will have children I've always wanted to be a mom and that's one of my life dreams it's to have a great career but

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also to be a great mother oh I love that and my my current purpose is to fuel my career because I love it but I know

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there's going to come a point when I want to shift gears a little bit and so for me thinking ahead I want to pour

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110% of myself right now into this current life that I live so that I have the luxury of taking time off when I am

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a mom to be fully engaged in mother Hood so how can I best do that especially

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being in a PhD you're in education for so long that I have to think ahead of my

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working years before motherhood um are pushed back a little bit than everyone who is right out of college at 21

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starting to work or even just doing a masters two years versus PhD which like five years hopefully we'll finish this

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year so mine will be amazing amazing but that's me also rushing my timeline okay

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and so just thinking about motherhood how can I make sure future who wants to be a mom has options and feels

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comfortable doesn't feel like she has regret is super excited about the journey and then number three is just

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the science yeah I am in my Prime I am in my Prime I have you are and so many

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ways coming from a 40s something year old no I still feel in my Prime you're in your Prime you're still in your Prime

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and so thinking about just genetic abnormalities thinking about egg quality

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egg count fertility in general they these are the youngest healthiest eggs I will ever have yeah

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and so how can I make sure that with the help of science I love science uh I have

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a great pregnancy and experience when the time is right yeah I love that I love everything you're saying it's so

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important and I love thinking about motherhood in the way of like how do I set myself up for Success when I be want

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to be a mother and you know what is my capacity going to be like I want to be in a place where maybe I have work

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capacity or I have the ability to shift a little bit out of work and you know I had so much angst around being a mom

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older and having my son at 40 but after he was here I was like this makes so much sense like I have the resources to

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do the things I want him or you know he wants to do I don't know he's two he doesn't know he likes trains I don't

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know um I have time I have patience like it's just I'm a different space and I

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think thinking about motherhood that way of like where you want to be in your life and what helps you supports you to

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be a really good mom because I think I think now thinking back if I was doing this in my 30s I was like I don't know

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if I'd be the type of Mom I am now in my 40s exactly and again it comes with the

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clarity in Your Vision what type of mother do you want to be and what type of childhood do you want to have for your children yeah I love yeah I mean

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it's just you're everything you're saying just prompts encourages people to think about things in a little bit

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different way that I don't think that we were encouraged to think about like what do we actually want how do we see our

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you know life designed like how do we set ourselves up for Success so I think you're you're prompting really amazing

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questions for women your age again like when I was 20 like these were not these

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were not things I were thinking about I was thinking about career and what I wanted to do and that was kind of it and going out and partying and having fun

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with my friends and you could still but you could still do all that but no one was prompting me to think about things

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in this way so I think it's so amazing that you've shared your story that you're continuing to share your story

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that you're have these thought-provoking questions about how do you plan ahead and how do you think about what you

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really want I think it's so amazing thank you it's a conversation we need to

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have more totally totally you I think also this narrative that you know the

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feminine masculine energy narrative that's on social media right now big one yeah you are told that if you're a woman

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and you're strategic you're in your masculine energy and that's not something very feminine too and this

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idea that being strategic and being focused with how you plan your life is

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masculine is such a toxic way to look at women taking control really of our own

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lives of our own lives and we weren't you know women weren't even allowed to sign off for their own credit cards till

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1972 so Insanity it's insanity and we're we're coming such a long way but I think

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there's still more work to be done yeah they want to hold us down cuz we Thrive

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um yeah and we were saying too like yeah these conversations weren't happening even 10 years ago so the more

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information that's out there and I think everyone has a right to their own choice but you deserve to have the information

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to make your choice and if you don't have that you're you there's no choice to be made I'm curious you know we are

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in different decades and a lot of these conversations you are the youngest person that we've had had on this podcast which I think is so amazing

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because I want younger women to be thinking about this and have this information and make a choice um as a

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woman in their 30s doing it there's this whole emotional layer and pressure you know not just fertility

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rate related in your 20s do you feel timelines or pressure or what is it like

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for you do you kind of fall into some of that it's a taking time bomb in the back of your head you have this weight on

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your shoulder and you also feel pressured to make decisions fast it's like okay need to find the partner need

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to figure out my career need to figure out when I'm going to have kids in all of the mix and so I think for me it's

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and all my friends all we talk about is okay is this going to be the person that's going to be potentially the

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father to our children and those decisions I feel like a weight's been lifted off my shoulders slightly and I

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have a little bit more Breathing Room knowing I have options for feature me mhm has what have your friends said

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about about you egg freezing have you have any of them like been encouraged to look into their fertility I would say so

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I have two groups of friends my my main group of friends they're in Academia Medicine Science and so they understand

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the logistics of egg freezing and they are also in training for so long just

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similar to me and so I think everyone in that space has been thinking about their fertility and it wasn't very shocking

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but for my friends you know my childhood friends that aren't necessarily have a Science Background at all or have never

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heard of this until I brought it up uh it's actually very different conversations that I'm having and it's

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informative but um I think to a lot of my friends and just people

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in my circles have thought critically about their own biases and their

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own cultural influences that they weren't even necessarily conscious of

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until I froze my eggs you know you you grow up and you're raised and your

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parents kind of just say oh you're going to have kids one day you're going to be a great mom and you know as a kid I had like the dolls I had the little kitchen

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set like I loved to play mom yeah and so if you just kind of Follow The Narrative

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until you were 26 27 and you realize wait is that something I genuinely want

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so those questions are now circulating which is so fabulous no I know and I as you're talking I'm thinking like wow

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this is a conversation about egg freezing and fertility it's such a bigger conversation about

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permission to think outside the box permission to push back on the narratives permission to question the

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narratives permission to go off the path that is told to you and this is a lot of

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what we talk about on this podcast and so I think yeah it's not just about egg freezing it's about all of these what is

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futureed me really want and how do I how do I think about my life on my own terms

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yeah and I'm build so I'm building the doit all girl which stands for it stands for Dia and it's a Community I've had

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since 2021 and now we're building like the consumer product end of it and the the

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whole premise is that women can do it all yes but you need the tools and systems in place to actually accomplish

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it all oh I love that and so for me egg freezing was one of my tools it's one of the tools in my toolkit that I had an

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option to use and is for future me and it is enabling me right now to do it all

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in addition to the AI tools and all the other systems that I use but I think we need to change the narrative that women

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don't need to just focus on one thing at a time to be exceptional I love that okay so I want

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to ask you two more things before we wrap up one what would you say to a

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20-some year old listening to this podcast you are allowed to plan and be

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strategic about your life and no one should tell you otherwise and you are allowed to feel in control and you

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should feel in control and I hope that this podcast empowers you just a little bit more to feel in

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control of future you and really think about her think about her in your day-to-day thoughts think about her in

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your decisions she deserves it oh I love that so much I think I want to add to

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that in that and I think this was your experience from everything that you're saying surround yourself with people

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that support you in that right because I think there are going to be some haters and some people that and a lot of times

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it's projection because maybe they don't have the courage to think outside the box or think for a future self so find

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do all of that and also find the people that support you in doing that exactly yeah okay last thing before we wrap tell

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everybody where they can find you to see your story if they haven't seen your story tell them about this community that you have you can find me on all

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platforms at wellby Shaya and I yeah I guess that's it yeah find me on

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all platforms at learn your community on there too yes and I have an entire like 35 part freezing series day by day on

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Tik Tok and a sit down with my fertility doctor on YouTube so all the pressing questions that my audience has shared

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and really wanted to open up on I asked my fertility doctor and she answered all

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of them the gossip really was there one question that stood out to

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you this was an interesting question is people were surprised that you were born with the amount of eggs that you have

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yeah the people don't know that this like I think people were like how could I have healthier eggs while you were

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born with them like yeah and just how they diminish over time right there's a

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lot that we just don't know we didn't learn in health class cuz nothing was happening in health class well thank you so much for being here I think you

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spreading your story and and being on social media is so so powerful especially for your generation because I

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shared with you I have not met a woman in their mid to late 30s that said I'm

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happy when I did this I met some women that said I wish wish I had done the sooner so you putting your story out

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there and being vulnerable and encouraging people to think about future self is so so important so thank you for

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that and thank you for having me on the show oh my God I'm so excited you're here thank you for being here thank you

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