Platonic Intimacy - When Friends Become Family

0:06believe that there's something in your brain called RAS, your reticular activating system. How the RAS works is it allows you0:13to see the things right now you can see them. So if you're driving a red Mustang, you see other red Mustangs on the0:20highway, perhaps that you're not seeing there tells you that your brains dumping information at an unbelievable rate, right?0:25Because it has taken a lot, it helps you recognize all the things that you want to and focus on those things. So0:30instead of you attracting it, you're attracted to it. That is how I think the law works.0:36Welcome back. It's a Since3000 I'm Danielle Leslie, and I'm so excited to bring you my best friend, Shaun Derik today, two0:44first names like me, we bonded a decade ago. He's one of the few0:50people in my life who I've been friends with for a whole 10 years. He saw me from the very beginning. In fact, he had a0:57show the hard part show, which was huge on Facebook, and he called me out in episode called call out season. And he was part1:05of the inspiration for me to actually launch my course business and launch course from scratch. I have him right here1:11on the couch with me. When I met him, he was already killing it as a speaker. So he has spoken all over the world. He is a true1:21storyteller. He's been in front of live audiences of over 700,000 people. And then he's moved to the internet and become1:29internet Jesus, His tickets have been viewed by millions of people. But what I will say above and all is he has really1:36showed me what friendship true friendship looks like. And in today's interview, you're gonna get a glimpse into what it looks1:42like for me to hang out with one of my best friends ever, who has inspired me from day one, to be a dreamer, and make those things1:48happen. And you're gonna find someone who has codified their knowledge into a speaker hack course. In addition to1:57continuing to bless not only me and every person he's in the room with, I call him the mayor of Harlem. He's left his2:04footprint blueprint all over the place, and you're gonna hear all about it. So Shaun, welcome to Since3000,2:12codified as that's amazing. 50,000 word. Follow that. Thank2:22you so much for having me. What is up, let's go.2:33I'm so excited to bring you today's episode. But before we do, I need to make sure you've heard about member up. So2:39community driven products are the future. But Facebook groups are a thing of the past. And after 10 plus years in the2:46online education space, I've taken all my learnings and I've built this incredible platform member up. 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You know we went to do you remember? So we went to we went to MJ the musical3:58everybody. Yeah. And she walks in in the whole crowd was like I4:04got an slo mo walking in. Absolutely do remember we met afterwards. It were4:10Oh my god. We were crying. I was at this random spot that's crying.4:17We were crying the tears. I had a very strong tear to came down like now we're crying. That show was ridiculously life changing4:29for me. Because for those watching, MJ is the truth.4:35That's MJ and Prince. Those are my spirit animals, but it'd be4:40two people just push them into one MJ and who would you be? Well, I'm curious. So if we go back to that show, what was like4:48the number one takeaway for you like what resonated the most because we talked a lot about it afterwards. What was the thing4:54that hit you the most? Michael Jackson was the first person who ends deduced magic to5:01me. You know, I mean, and everything, like everything he did was magic. From the liens. The moonwalk was like always5:08defying something. Right. And so the show was just it was so5:14nostalgic. I was like thinking about the first time I learned how to do the moonwalk on the first time I saw Moonwalker at5:21my cousin's house in Atlanta, Georgia, and I could not like the next day trying to go back in Columbus, Ohio to school when5:27I was like, I gotta tell y'all something as a man who exists and he can leave, you know, trying to tell the five year old5:36friends that Michael Jackson, it just took me aback. But the thing that stood out to me the most was how free he felt on the5:46stage. Michael, people like Prince, these people are introverts. I'm very much an introvert. And a lot of people5:53think that I'm not, but I'm a lot more comfortable on the stage. It feels like home. When I'm contributing at that level,6:01the high vibration when you get a reaction from people, you know, when they laugh, or they cry, they think you can feel it6:09in the room. It's possible you can actually, you can actually like you can touch it, you can feel it. And the show we were6:15sitting at both of us. Were sitting there like, Oh my god. Michaels here was dope.6:21This is so special for me, because I have shared with guests already about our limo ride. I have shared with them6:30how we were on that rooftop. And you came in your trench coat snowing, it was winter in New York. And I was in my bubble6:39coat. And you were freezing. I was freezing too. But you were extra freezing because we weren't in the igloo. And we6:48said we want. You said we want champagne and some warmth at the next spot. And we walked downstairs. And there was a line6:57of limos, like five or six levels outside. Yeah, by the way, I'm gonna grab this picture because this photo is actually7:06this. This is the only photo Yeah, I have. Yeah, right here. Legit. Yeah, in my living room. And it is a me and Shaun. Yeah,7:15evidence of the trench coat. I also want you to notice that Dan is properly dressed.7:25He was a trench coat. So this is the moment right here. Now, what I know about you, when I'm with you. It is that moment all the7:33time. So you say this is what I see. And then we create that and we walked downstairs and there was a line of limos. And Tony7:42was there and he said, Would you like to take a ride with me in the limo? It's warm, and I have champagne for you and I could7:51drive you around. And we drove around and we toasted toasted. We don't do toast right now. We toast it to us. We post it to7:59the future where we're going to create that year. Cheers to that. Cheers. We said we were gonna have a show. What are we8:07on right now? Shaun? Oh my god. We're on the show on a motherfucking show. We8:12own a damn show on a motherfucking show. Yeah, I will say this. What I was really enjoy about you. We8:19create magic together, of course. But you always see things like it's the first time so it makes it easy for me to8:26create. I said, we do this. We walked in the limo. The way your eyes lit up. We've been in limos before you were like Can you8:33believe I mean? Yeah, I mean No, but I can't can't and then we8:41champagne now. I'm sure the champagne was off I'm sure. But8:46it wasn't. Danny was what Danny was like, oh8:55oh my god, this plastic glass makes this taste amazing. Everything you do, right. It seems like you're doing for the9:03first time. That's what makes it fun to create with you. You know? I feel like that every time like let's do this idea and9:10you get excited about it. By the way, I don't know if I've talked about this on the show already. Human Design a little9:17bit. What you won't say about it though. Well, what I found that about me9:27don't be mad shade coming in strong. Go ahead. Tell the people your true. I am a man a manifesting generator. Right? Yeah, no, that9:39is maybe you do. I quite I still don't quite know what it is. You're a generator. Right? So I was getting so hyped. I'm9:47looking at this camera is my show. I was getting so high. I really like Hello people. Hello people. My name is Sean9:53Derrick's people come into my show. Hey Michelle. I'm a9:59manifesting generator. And she's a generator. So when you look at your human design chart, you'll see different parts of your10:08being that are lit up. And you know your generator because there's this little box at the bottom that you call your10:14sacral. Right? And so generators when they make decisions, they make it from their guts guttural. It's very like, I10:21didn't feel I didn't feel in one day and one thing Danny would say all the time, is when making our decisions is if it's not a10:28hell yes, it's a what? Fuck now? Okay, I was gonna say hell no for the kids. If it's not a fuck yes, it's a hell no,10:35no, you're right. What's better? That's better. Luck is my favorite. Because we're definitely that's yours too.10:46Cool. Yeah. So she'd like it was not hell yes as hell now. Right? That is some generator shit. Of course, she would say that. So10:54then I was excited because I was a different type of generator that Danny's not a manifesting generator. Generator life going11:00for he is cute. It's great. So then we get to our friends retreat. And we all get our charts, you know? And I'm so11:09competitive. I'm looking at my chart. I'm like, What are you? Oh, your projector? That's cute. So mine are yours. Not as lit up11:16as mine. Right? We get to Danny's chart. Her whole chart is lit. And I was like, it was that mean? Because that's11:24different from what I have. Oh, no, no, everyone's everyone's11:31here to do something different. Everyone's here to do something different. To add something different to the world.11:38Everyone's here. I'm like, Okay, why are you trying to give me then we go to this workshop. We go to this human design. I'm11:47like, my homie gonna tell me something. Because right now, Danielle's chart is all the way lit up. You're not supposed to11:53compare yourself to people, you know, however. So I'm like,11:58Alright, cool. So they're saying, you know, he's just like, oh, yeah, this, this percentage of the population are generated this percentage. Oh, that's cute. Danny's in the 70%.12:07Hmm. Common? And then he goes, Wait, Danny? No. Oh, that's12:12right. You're this time of January, you're in the 1%. Less than 1%? Less.12:19All right. It's your show? No, it's accurate. So you can do that. That's human design, everybody. That's why she's here12:28in her Shona set. Right. And I'm on this side of the microphone.12:35What did you learn about human design for you? interview you? Oh, my goodness. Well,12:43what I will say is what have I learned? I think one thing I've12:54taken away is because all my centers are defined. And I guess13:01that means I'm emitting signals all the time. There's, of course, with everything, two sides of the coin, one side of13:09the coin, when I'm in my design, I can send those signals.13:14Another side of the coin is that the person on the receiving end, if they have open centers, they are receiving my signals. So if13:21I'm in a low vibrational state, they will receive those signals.13:27And guess what they gonna send back to me what I'm sending to them. I see. So what I will get back is what I'm putting out. So13:35it taught me that I have the ability like all of us, frankly,13:41but I know that I have the ability to set the tone. And it helped me just take more ownership of where I am like,13:48where am I vibrating? What am I putting out because I'm gonna get that right back. So not only is it impacting the other13:54person, but it's also going to come back to me, and I'm gonna think is the other person but it's really me. Like it really14:02starts here. I felt like that spoke to my spirit. Most recently, Danielle14:09was telling me I was acting an ass, basically. Let me Can I share though what I appreciate. So okay, Shaun, what14:19you've done for me, is you have shown me what it looks like to turn friends into family. So we met a decade ago like we're14:28celebrating our 10 year anniversary. We met in 2012. Oh my god, and I was broke. I was living at my mom. She looked14:37broke. Come on out on the road. Remember that maxi dress I was thinking about my IG the IG posts of us and brunch in14:46Harlem. So Shaun is the mayor of Harlem okay? And we're sitting at brunch you still are like seriously? Your your your14:56blooper. rent your footprint. Is there. Your energy? Is there. The fact that you did a event at Langston Hughes? Home? Correct15:06his former home, you brought Broadway stars you brought people who are so talented to give their gifts on stage. And15:15then you had people like me in the room were like, Oh my gosh, what's going on? I need to wear a black. I'm wearing15:24the best dress. I was navy blue in the room. She was wearing a15:29Grammy dress. It is you? It was It wasn't. It wasn't never.15:38The theme was black or navy blue, black. She was like what rule walked in? Yeah.15:45But we met a decade ago. I had, I was figuring it out. And what15:50we had in common is that we really valued our dreams, you've always been the speaker for the dreamer. And that means the15:57speaker for your own dreams and for others in the room. And I really resonated with that. And it's so wild, when I look back16:04at the fact that like we are still friends are one of a short, very short list of people who I've been friends with for a16:10decade. You know, my mom, you know, my sister, you know, my dad, like you've spent time my brother, you spent time with all16:17of them without me and had a great time. Like, you truly show me what it looks like to turn friends into family. And one16:25thing I learned from you was, what intimacy means, like,16:30platonic intimacy is to be able to come as you are, to tell your truth in real time, be transparent, and feel safe in16:39that. And I remember, we hung out in Harlem one time, and you16:44took me on the VESA got on the back of it, and I was having a hard time. And you're like, Let's go for a ride. And we16:52hopped on the back. On the best not the best one was great. time16:58in life. Oh, and we took a ride. And then we got out and we got these amazing margaritas. Amazing. Oh my gosh. And I just17:07remember sharing with you my views on relationships. And they weren't traditional, they weren't conventional. And I felt17:14shame around. I felt guilt around it. And you were one of the first people to show me and demonstrate like it's okay. You17:22are one of those people who normalizes everything, because everything is gonna go normal. Like there is no good bad or17:30this is okay, this is not okay. And I really like credit you to this day for me feeling amazing more than okay with like being17:39myself expressing myself. And I would say like, You're a big reason for why I am where I am today, which is like feeling17:45comfortable in my skin. Wearing this. You know, I'm saying you inspire this. I'm living this life, and also being able to17:53turn other friends into family. So what I want to ask you is when you look at your relationships, we'd be out in18:02whether it's Wahaca where do we go for Tara's birthday? Oh, Dominican Republic, Dr. And you're FaceTiming other friends18:10inviting them into the experience. But what I want to ask you is how have you been able to turn friends into18:16family? Like what does that look like? Oh, we're getting deep. I I lost family. My father at 14. And I18:24think when you lose someone that close to you, isn't there's a you don't I don't think people realize that people can pass18:32away until you lose someone so close to you. That was my first time realizing that life was so finite, right? It was we're like18:42this is we're here to do something and then we're not going to be here anymore. Right? Physically here. So then, when I18:50got to New York City, the only way to have family forever is to collect people. Right? And continue to, you know, insert18:59people into your own life. Right. And that is that's what I've done. Right? Every time I meet someone, I try not to have19:08any strangers but that's the that's the only way and I think it's me somehow trying to prevent not trying to do deep19:16trauma I'm trying to prevent not losing everyone. We lost our father, our protector, our breadwinner, right our guide.19:24And we didn't have that, you know, all through high school. If I meet someone, and that friend is it's got wonderful19:33cloth qualities are going to have family forever and I continue to build my family forever. So as your family19:41passes away or they move on, they don't die off. Yeah, family everywhere, you know, even to this most recent move outside of19:50the country is that I know can make family everywhere. And I credit that to realizing that we're not all going to be here19:58forever. And so we should just start to start to build our family other places. So it didn't have to just exist in20:07Columbus, Ohio, where I'm from. So that's, that's why. And the second thing is, I've learned so much from platonic20:15relationships. Right. Growing up, you know, guys are on one side, the girls on the other side, you dig in if you had a20:23female friend, you're just kind of waiting. You know what I mean? Just kind of wait until she broke up with him. Damn,20:32he's tall. Sorry. You're nice guy. Alright, cool. Shaun. You're smart. That stuff. John, you can do stuff. He's tall.20:40He's really tall. He's got a lot of money. Okay. John J weeks motivational speaker talk big laughing to yourself, sir. You20:49know, so everything would be like waiting until someone broke up with someone, you know. But, you know, when I moved to New20:58York City, this arts community really know how to do it. I value all my friendships because I've learned so much from women.21:07Oh, my God. In the age of we are so off. Now the future is female. I've learned how to be a radical empath. So I've learned21:16listening, I've learned not beating myself up. I'm learning from my, my partner, right? Not shaming myself so much. I've21:25learned acceptance. I've learned vulnerability. And though you know, my male counterparts possess a lot of these21:33qualities. It's my, it's female friends that I have around those the ones that I feel most comfortable with, you know, and21:41so I try not to celebrate the most common denominator, it's like, oh, this girl looks like this, I have to have this21:50person. My friend kasi told me this once. And I'll never forget, he told me this. He said, Don't pick the flowers.21:58And his idea was that when you pick a flower, right, as beautiful as it is, you know it now the flower has a shelf life,22:07and you ruin it for the flower and the community around. You know. And so his idea was that though you have these amazing22:15people around you, like, you know, you don't know what this person is going through. So as much as you want to engage22:24sexually with this person, or if they want to do just kind of just consider it and go, am I picking this flower? Right? He22:33said, How dope would it be if you had just an army of people around you who are supportive, right, who you helped, and the22:42story at the end of the day, right? How you remembered as the day was either a mentor, or a friend or a brother, you know,22:50someone who gave something to them and didn't take something away. So I remember his conversation to me when I first22:59got here, and I tried to try to keep that. Right. And I did pick a few flowers. I did. I know what you are all asking. While back?23:10Yeah, that is so real, though, because I have had someone tell23:16me, and they saw this photo of me and you. And they said, you23:21know, this guy is the luckiest man, because he's your best23:26friend. And he was coming from the perspective of if I decide23:31to date you, that means there may be an end date. To that end,23:37he said, Any guy who decides to date you, they will have you in23:42their life for a certain period of time. And then after that,23:47you will be a memory, maybe a contact. But he said because23:52Shaun is dedicated to you as a friend as a platonic partner.23:57He's your friend for life. Like he's got you in his life for24:03life. And I that was such a reminder of like, how grateful I24:08am for our friendship. Like, it really is like for life.24:13Yeah. I tried to date a friend years ago when I first moved you24:20know you're trying to do and she she said something she said24:29something to that effect. She's just like, well when it ends than what I was like, what you mean and if we and I'm a24:38romantic maybe we would have still been together who knows but if we weren't if we're you know, if we had to break up then24:45we had to face all that up. And by the way, you know, you know my story you know everything about me y'all need to know everything. Keep the chat bots pop and only notice going24:57chatbox we decided To explore some things and that person at25:02the moment, she's no longer in my life. She's someone I still25:09love very much. And exploration is important. Don't Don't do25:15don't don't abstain, because the fear of losing someone, that's not what I'm saying. However, what I gained from my female25:24friendship, my, you know, a platonic friendships with my female friends is just so much more. You know, I mean, you25:32still get all the stuff, you know, a lot of guys don't know how to give a hug to somebody, you know, I mean, you know,25:38Helen gives the best hugs. Right, just, you know. And, you25:47know, at our last friend's retreat, we're all in the, you know, hot tub and just chillin just like, massaging each other,25:53just like, you know, very friendly. And that's, you don't get this was the household I grew up in, my mom was very26:00stoic. So when my father passed away, I was left with this beautiful woman unless and who really motivated us. But she26:07wasn't very vulnerable. She wasn't very open, and she wasn't very physical. And so for awhile, I only looked for women26:15who were cold stone who weren't physical. So I didn't know how to even be physical with people. Right? So when someone's being26:21physical, I'm like, I know what time it is. Let's go. Right? I don't know if you've ever experienced that. Right? We just26:27like you'd like, I'm just saying, Hi, baby. We didn't gotta just oh, you know, I get my friend. She was telling me26:33she lay in the morning she watched I gotta play dead. So watch, go out and play. I gotta play Did you know we talked26:39March, he said, I gotta play dead because he won't try to wake me up for six. I just gotta you know if you know them up. So26:47sometimes, I'm learning with this friends group that we're in sensuality, as opposed to sexuality, it's a little bit different. It's how to be vulnerable and how you can be26:54physical with people, and demonstrate and receive love. Without that other stuff. Right? And if you're out there27:01watching, we're not talking about sex as a bad thing at all. In fact, I've been told I'm amazing at it. Because in case27:11you want a sound bite, you gotta leave some seconds after it. No,27:16no. But what I am saying is that what you and I have built, is we27:21got communities all over the world now. You know, we motivate each other. If I'm going through something tough, right? You27:29won't let me stay down for long you just won't do it. I was going through a breakup situation. Danny was like, okay,27:37she got my ass together. I left out of that when he when we were in the cave, just like you know, you want to be like this. My27:47Tears was like this. They came right back. Like, okay, I guess27:53I gotta go. Be some now. Yeah, we don't let each other. We28:00don't let each other be down too long. Right. And so when you express something to me, you're going through, I'm like, Cool.28:06Alright, let me tell you what I saw. So having that the bounce of that is that is why I think that we have just like a one in28:12a million type, friendship, and I've yet to be someone who has what we have.28:18Ah, I agree. It's been proven that procrastination can be one of our biggest enemies to success. Now contrary to belief,28:25procrastination is not based on a lack of time management or organizational skills. Procrastination is directly28:33linked to to our emotions. Now, the reason I know this is because of Patti Johnston. Patti Johnston is incredible. She's of28:41course from scratch member. 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And I remember we were29:42in LA, and I had asked you to come in and lead my team retreat. And you were phenomenal at it. And at the end of the29:49retreat. You said we were on the rooftop at this beautiful Airbnb in West Hollywood. And you're like alright, Danny. I'm leaving29:58and I'm like, oh, Would you meet, you're like, I'm taking the whole month of December off. And I'm like, wait, we What do30:06you mean? Because in my mind, I'm like, I need to go back to work. I've got to make this money out of these webinars and30:13do all these things. And I see you saying, I'm gonna play, I'm taking December off. And that was so inspiring for me. And I30:21think, ever since I've known you, you've created this amazing life where you get to dictate, this is my working season, this30:30is what I'm gonna show up. And this is my play season. And this is what I'm going to do. And I would love for you to kind of30:38describe, like, the Year in the Life of Shaun Derik, what does that look like?30:45Post COVID or pre COVID. I was saying now, okay, because let me brag on you. Okay, when I30:51met you, you were already an acclaimed international speaker, making multiple five figures, whatever you wanted every month31:00from speaking, you're like, Yeah, this is how much I want to make this month, I'm gonna do this. And your your gift was in31:09the storytelling. So not only were you speaking, you were also playing the piano, you were singing comedy, like everything.31:17And it could be kids, it could be administration, it could be CEOs, any room you went into, you're able to captivate them31:26through your storytelling, and you're able to enliven them, shake them up. And I have seen you, through all of it, always31:35own that and introduce new ways like virtual speaking. I've seen you move from Harlem to Mexico City, create a community there,31:44I've seen you put on those amazing events. And so I want people to know like, what is this life that Shaun Derik has?31:52Like? What is what is the year like with you? What are we talking about?31:58Oh, my God. A year of no ceiling? Yes, go in a given32:03time, my beautiful sales team. Send me an email and say you got32:09to be on the set of this award show. So I'll be the hosting emcee doing storytelling a motivational speaking for32:14college students or high school students writing grand narratives for large companies to do an upgrade or to rebrand32:21for their for their organization. doing silly content online that makes me laugh and brings me joy. Yeah.32:29Right. I'm storyboarding just all storytelling, right? That is what I'm either traveling and making people laugh on stage and32:38inspiring at the same time making an impact and income. Or I'm living in paradise. Writing funny sketches, but wow. Yeah.32:49Yeah, that's pretty dope. Yeah, I guess. That's okay. This is what you add to our friend birthday celebrations. I told33:00them about the love languages that you created that whole experience you created. I haven't talked about the party33:07that ever happened. So I think one thing I've gotten from you,33:13which I'm fascinated by is identity, and how we can choose a new identity to embody it from moment to moment, you know,33:21I'm gonna go with this story. Danny wasn't me tell the story. Danny. De shows up at this party in character, which33:31you already tell him you're gonna tell. I'll tell. Go ahead. Tell them alright, so this is very important. A week before I33:37throw this party, my partner is in town, and I want to see if I can, I want to see if I can trick her. What I mean by that33:44is I want to see if I can actually surprise her before I put this work in. So I decorate the entire brownstone. When33:51she's gone for an hour. She comes back and she's like, what's going on? I'm dressed in a different outfit, ma'am.33:57Backup. Backup. I'm in a cop outfit. And then she goes, Shaun, what are you doing? Ma'am? Are you on the list? She34:04goes, yeah. Cool. I go and change come back another outfit. I'm so sorry. I'm so he does it. Everybody can quickly come and34:11going. There's an outfit on the on the back of the door. code change. You're fine. Right? It hasn't No, come down in 2034:18minutes. She changes. I'm in a different outfit. I changed four or five times at night. You did and there was no one in the34:25brownstone by the way. It was just me and my lady just I got her. So then I hit up Danny had a jazzy right. I don't care. I34:32hit like all of our friends. Hey, listen. I'm trying to do this really weird, obscure party. Are you able to like yes,34:38I'm a cool character play called the party that never happened. Right? So what it is you were all transported here. Right? You34:46don't know where and why you came here. Right? It is your duty to find out why you all been transferred here to this34:52party. And this timeless tavern. I hired a person to do to be the bartender his name was done. coupler, right? And you have34:59this Porter particles, right? That you can open and it tells you a little commands to keep the party going. So it might35:06say, you have to make everyone sit on the floor, close it, and then you have to make it one sit on the floor, but you have to do35:14it very creatively. So the characters came in, they all could not no matter if they knew each other or not, they couldn't35:21look at you that children's eyes as if they knew each other. Right. So that lack of familiarity could not be there.35:27So they all dressed in these characters. They all got there when Danny showed up, right? And by the way, my partner's not35:34here at the time. She stepped out, right? I knew I could trick her now. She comes in whole place is lit. Danny comes in and35:41she just for a second. And she saw me in character. She goes, okay. Okay, this girl goes he changes and she goes, so when35:48the character so much though, try I told you a couple times. I used to Okay. We're all set in place. And then my lady gets35:55there. I'm in the outfit. Again. She's with my friend Amira. She goes, Oh, damn it. He does this thing. Sometimes he plays dress36:03up. I don't know what's up. Maybe can you just please let us in and grab a mirror. She comes in. Right? Because she doesn't36:10realize that Amir is in on it. So then we all get into place. She has now new outfits. She changes into her Princess36:16outfit. She comes down. Everyone's applauding. Everyone's throwing flowers at our feet. We're on character.36:22We're all have all of these in that as the party that never happened. And then they know the entire party. Right? They hear36:30this bale everyone freezes and Doppler who's now on Broadway. He's doing little sharper wars. He sings he belts, and I think36:37to myself36:45seems the most beautiful song. And we all freeze and none of the characters knew this was going to happen. And then we go36:52back to the party. And anyway, so to that. The idea is I've36:58always wanted to throw parties I wanted to be invited to. So when I first moved to Harlem, I'd heard about the Harlem37:04Renaissance. And then no one was throwing these parties. And so I start throwing jazz parties because I want to be invited to these parties. either. I wasn't cool enough. who didn't know me,37:12or these parties didn't exist anymore. And so the party never happened was what if? What if we just did it? Right? Hey, Danny,37:21if I do this, will you show up? And Danny's answer is always yes. So with the love languages party, it's always really about37:28the Yes. This the yes, you know, and when you know Shonda Rhimes came up with a year of Yes, I had come with his hard part Show37:36episode called the year of no and I was just like, stop saying no, or something. Yes. All the time. You have no i Please. You37:43know somebody. You said no enough to get here. That's very important. The reason why you want to say no is so you can say37:49yes to these types of things you did. There's this idea of play37:55that I'm really into men, and that is shy is to say. She would38:01say her mom shines my partner. Her mom would say all right,38:06guys. The rear of the park, it's time to go Sandra. Why mom? Five38:12more minutes. You've had too much fun. Too much fun. Let's go there's too much fun. What is it says he was tired of a younger38:19age that you can actually have too much. Too much fun. Know what that is? But you can't have that. Right. And we've all38:27adopted that of sorts. How do you have too much fun? You can figure it out? Usually though, we got going. Oh, no, that38:32sounds like a lot. I'm gonna get my because you know, it's Friday. I know it's Friday, but I'm just gonna just rest up from38:38from Monday. I got a Monday coming up, you know, and with this friend group, we don't miss any time to play. Yeah. What if38:47this was your last day? You know, you like I did. I did get a good night's sleep as ever I held says from REM she told me38:55that she said you will never ever. You will remember great parties, but you will never ever remember the last time you got a39:02good night's sleep. I never forgot that. So that's what we offer. It's like, you know, can you say yes, if I come with a39:09dope idea. You know, you need somebody to say yes. Because I love to play but I'm like, yes. Okay, cool. All right, you a39:15tree like what? Tree? Okay. Do it, Mister? Yes. Yeah, that's39:22the point. I love that. That party was actually a pivotal moment for me39:28because you invited all of us to embody a character in any time39:33in history. And that is huge for me, right thinking about past present future. And he said you choose anybody from your past,39:39present or future so they tell him they gonna tell and I chose Josephine Baker, Josephine. I watched her documentary I39:46researched her and I said, Oh, this is my spirit animal for the party that ever happened.39:51Who's my spirit animal. Yours prints come on. And I dressed as Josephine Baker. I39:59got the finger way. A vase with sand. She came with the old school flapper outfit with like the40:08finger ways. We could not believe it and she would not break character, then a look at Danny some I call her Josie.40:18Daddy Joe Joe. Yes. Okay. All right doesn't know. And you will you did as you created this space,40:24you gave us the invitation to embody that to the fullest, even with your game with the Puerto particles or picked up the paper40:31and I got that one where it said you need to sing for the next two minutes straight. And so I found myself singing.40:40I'm practicing because I'm gonna sing.40:45So for next two minutes, I was singing opera. Yeah, in as Josephine Baker, and explaining why. And it was accepted.40:54Because it's like, oh, obviously she's practicing for opera. Can I ask you a question? You're super motivating. And I? Like41:04what? What about Josephine Baker for you, calls you to motivate41:09every character that night. mean when I think about who she is, she was a reverent. Yeah,41:18she didn't she create her own rules. She was led as I saw by41:26her inner authority, by self expression. I remember in a41:31series on HBO, I'm forgetting the name of the series. But she was in one of the episodes. And she was performing on stage, she41:39had all these amazing women and she was empowering them. So I just saw a lot of what I want to embody in her. And so I think41:48that night, I was just showing up as her and me, which is I'm fully expressed. If the instructions are to get everyone41:56to sit on the floor, I'm going to invite everyone and say, This is the dance I have learned in Paris, I feel like I'm on the42:03streets of Paris. So you guys join me let's all dance it was on and then I dance all the way to the floor, and we're all42:09sitting on the floor. It's being in the moment and asking yourself, if I do this? Am I inviting others to also embrace42:18who they are? More than they would have? Yeah, I mean, you nail you know, we still talk about this. Yeah,42:24it was so fun. You nailed this is interesting. You putting on that character. You know, people who've taken acting lessons have42:32gone to school for it, right? They'll, they'll say, acting isn't pretending it's being. Be if you're doing method acting,42:39not you're being the character not pretending to be the character. And so when we saw you do that, like you being like42:46you, you can do this, you don't have to pretend this and it actually changes everything. You know, whenever I get ready for a42:54party, right? I'm so excited. I know, I'm going to play a character. Even if you're calling me, Shaun. I'm playing a43:01character. Right. And I do every so often. I do like different names wherever I am, you know, gift is what I go by. In Mexico,43:09because it reminds me and labels are important names are important. Right? So if you want to change the name to Him and do43:16it, it doesn't matter. You know, I say that because when I was younger, I was labeled. You know, they thought I was like,43:23Okay, well, he's not getting these types of grants. So he maybe he's not smart. Right. And, you know, I often tell, you43:30know, administrators, teachers, people work with kids, you know, if you label, you know, a plastic bin is trash. What does43:38everyone else do to it? They're trashing it easy. You know, and it's a bed, you know. And so whatever you're43:47labeled as, it's really easy for people to fall in line, right? And so you should be fat working on your labels and should be43:55fact worked on your titles and name when I was at the bank. Before I was speaking. I took my business card, right? That said44:02retail sales and service representative, which is basically as a teller, and I cross it out. I was like, It's44:10not cute at all. There's too many words. And I put a title I44:16just made one up. Right. What was it? i The time it was a it's44:22like a branch Business Banking something, right? I don't know it, but it felt better. Yeah, than that. And I wrote it in and44:30I did it to all my cards, right? So I knew that if a customer asks, What's this? I'm like, Oh, that's right. It's crossed out.44:37I got a promotion. I got a promotion. So at 22 years old,44:42right. I got two promotions. 23 I left my job. And it was44:50because it changed my title. That's why I really think happened. You know, I'm saying, you know, the Stanford44:56experiment, I think was 1979 and we've wrong 69 Think six, nine, don't quote me on that Stanford experiment. What they did was45:04they they had a group of people, random people, and they gave them roles, you're going to be prisoners, and you all are going45:10to be guards. Right? What they found was staggering was unbelievable. What they found is people fell into those roles.45:18Seriously. And people were like, the they were like punishing the45:23god, the prisoners, who were like, give me some water. I can't use the bathroom. And they were like, punishing, they were taunting them. They were torturing these regular people.45:31Right? That's what the guards were doing. What's more interesting to me? Is it the prisoners, we're letting them45:39your prisoner? Just rolls? You did you ever go to like, you45:44know, if you're out in LA, or if you're out somewhere and you're driving somewhere, there is not a car in sight. And you're45:51sitting at the red light and black. Man, I know, there's nothing keeping me from right, going through this red light. No46:00cameras, I can just, I'm still sitting here. Right? That is46:05that is the absurdity of rules, labels, confines borders, we all46:11obey them. Right? And we've been taught to obey them. So just imagine that if you change your own, right, because you obey you46:17obey, right? Those types of rules, change your title and see how you act. Right? For example, right? When you put a dress on46:25that you like, or that outfit on you like, how do you stand? Right? Are you slumped down? You're slouching? Are you a threat? You did that? I mean, so the outfit can change you46:33imagine if title right? Or how someone a dress, you can change it as well. That is why I think those types of parties are46:38important, though. You know, I'm saying I love that. What I'm hearing is that is our ability to choose46:45our role know that we have that authority, that agency to say who we want to be. And that helps determine how we show up.46:53And so I'm curious, we're here, where you are in your life right47:00now? What is the role you are transitioning out of? And what is the new role? You're claiming? What is that new47:06title? That's a beautiful, beautiful timing. On our last retreat, we're doing like the new moon. And I was, I had everyone write47:15down what they would like to bury. Right? So they don't know what something that's no longer serving them, and then what47:20they'd like to grow, like, what they would like to grow from that. So what I'd like to put down, what I wrote was I put to47:26death, doing everything myself. You know, even though there's a47:32generation of the multi hyphenated, I didn't know how important having a team was. Right? And my excuse was,47:38they're not gonna do it like me. Well, let's hope not. Good,47:44because right, got you where you are. Right? One of my favorite book titles I've ever heard of was what got you here won't get47:52you there. And so now, I said, Okay, I'm not I'm putting to47:59death not needing a team do everything by myself. And now I'm welcoming, right? I'm growing into fostering48:05relationships with those who can really help you get this vision and purpose for everything I'd like to do. Right next out. And48:13so I see that now. So now I'm making friends with it. You know, the funniest thing today, I've met so many amazing people48:20on the way here. On the way here, I'm not even kidding. Okay.48:26I gotta look up his name because you know, he's pretty. He's a somebody. I was hanging out in LA, I'll show you this in LA. I48:33was hanging out with wine with this person in the store. And I'm just teasing them. Someone goes in front of it. You might have just bought socks. You might if I go in front of he48:42goes, Yeah, that's fine. You go. And I go. You might have he looked at me like I was just getting I was gonna see you on48:49your way. So I was playing. We talked. He's so cool. You know,48:56he's like, Well, yeah, hit me on IG homie. And you know, he didn't say Oh, me. He wouldn't have said homie. But you don't49:02have cool. All right, great. I saw him I like a lot of people now. Okay, cool. So Shy, shy, is it? That's who you met? What was49:12cool about it is that there is I do believe there's a vibration. I only have proof from my own life, by the way, is that when49:20you make decisions, right? Then the law of using the Law of Attraction is you attract the things that you most think49:27about, right? I believe differently. I believe that there's something in your brain called RAs, your reticular49:34activating system. And how the RAS works is it allows you to see the things right now you can see them so if you're driving a49:42red, you know, Mustang, you see other red Mustangs on the highway, perhaps that you're not seeing, then it tells you that49:48your brains dumping information at an unbelievable rate, right because it hasn't taken a lot and now it helps you really49:53helps you recognize all the things that you want to and focus on those things. So instead of you attracting it,49:59you're attracted To get that is how I think the law works. So now all of a sudden, here I am talking to this famous director,50:07right? Just put this we just had the new moon I don't even know. Wow, did I sit down Cindy winters I was hanging out city.50:15Yeah, I just saw that sit down. And someone said something to me. And I'm like, What is going on? Right now I've got these. My50:23my core, I guess is open for these opportunities because I made a decision not to do everything myself. So that's50:30what things happening right now. Yeah, so I'm, I'm, I accept off50:36forms of payment from the universe. Right. I love you. Thanks. Oh, thank you. I'm gonna take some more normally, I50:47was like, alone. I was like, okay, Sean is here with me jumping on the couch. Around Did you want me to do the whole? I50:54mean, no, it's just what I'm used to. Oh, I naturalization you know, so you know, it's a while because I try to watch Danny's51:00eyes like you do want to I just I just never she's never done it. So.51:05Sean, yes. When has my barometer for doing the most that's ever51:11been that is so true. Too much. There's no such thing. It's never too much. No, it's never too much. So the most is the51:18norm, the most. Like the most of the norm because what we want to51:24give people a glimpse of is our friendship and like how we typically hang out, okay. And it's always like, you know,51:32the most of the norm, tattoo. Or tattoos? Yes,51:37we can share that. Yes. I got a tattoo with this woman.51:43We're magic. You're the only person I have a matching. You're definitely the only person in the same51:48place here here. Oh, yes. Yeah. Yeah. Got it.51:54That's because you have my back. And I refresh, right. So we have this. So our the symbol of it is, so imagine that52:0311 Right. Danny Says something really crazy. It was amazing, right? And by the way, crazy. I love the word crazy. So when you52:09hear me say crazy, it's always a compliment. The idea is that if you have crazy ideas usually doesn't mean that you're out of52:15your mind. It means that you're out of someone else's. So Danny's like, okay, and my universe one plus one equal two52:23and my universe. One plus one equals 11. Right? I need to have someone that I'm running with side by side. I was like, Well,52:30damn it. I know what this tattoo can be. We both were like we're getting the number 11 on our arm. And we did listen, I think52:44I haven't found a place Oh. Sean, aren't you IT outsourcing52:51to Helen probably found that Helen dress me? Helen burped me52:57Helen Hello, does everybody Helen53:05Okay, So Helen brown amazing place where we got our tattoos?53:12Yes, that is a tattoo. Daddy is a G she is such a G I don't know53:19where you store your paid. Cuz she went first. I was like, no53:26tears nothing. There was my turn. And I was like, Do you not like me sir? Do you not do something to you? I thought not53:35everybody he was just continue to do this is I don't feel like53:40he's even halfway done. But those that everyone asked about this tattoo all the time to ask about this. If I were to be53:49completely transparent, it is saying you've created and see53:54when you're worth going and seeing that you know how to take a healthy break and jump back in. The one on one to me going54:02parallel is to remind me to keep up and I don't mean keep up with54:08the Joneses. I'm just literally like hey, listen, see what she's doing? You can do this too. You can't you can't come on. Come54:14on. Come on, come on. And that is what parallel into infinity we go into the end of time. That is what that means to me. Every54:21time you do a new project I'm like that's gonna take Tuesday off but that's what that reminds me of. I tell everyone when they54:33ask what exactly this mean wow. And what you mean to me so54:39I know that my year of asking the question and being in54:45constant inquiry of who am I was largely guided supported curated54:50by you. I learned from you how to turn friends into family. I now have a group that I consider my family and we do our like54:58group where they trips we have these amazing experiences because of you, you've really like talk about keeping up, I55:05look to my left and I'm like, Oh, wow, like Sean has really created a safe space for everyone to be to be their fully55:12expressed selves to claim that new role claim the new identity, this way to go back to it. Like I said, Danny called me out for55:18being asked today.55:24But we can have those honest, that's what I love about our show. We can have our honest conversation I didn't know could just tell him about it. He's my second glass Oh, just55:38the first bottle. So we're in San Diego, it's beautiful house.55:48I want to have I thought I had a great time. I had a great time. I was wanting some stuff. Everybody was, you know, me and55:53Danny, we always find time to pull it to the side like, hey, this was going on. I'm like, damn, okay, me too. Cool. Break,56:01we'll come back. Yes. So then we go to this workshop together. We hook up in the city and like, let's meet up in the city. Go to56:08the Human Design Workshop. After workshop. We're sitting just having dinner. And she's like, Yeah, yeah, I stayed away from56:16you. The other day, I thought you were really putting off some negative energy. And I was like, so what? You know, repeat repeat56:22that because I didn't hear my name. And so you came to tell me? Yeah, yeah. You were doing some I don't know what you're doing. So just so you. Yeah, it was just was so negative. Oh, it56:30was awful. Yeah, it was awful. Huh. I was fine. It's fine. It's fine. Yeah. But I was just I was like, what? It's not shot, but56:36it's cool. And I was like, Danny, I didn't know that. You could see that. And when I first said, I didn't know that you56:44could see that. I think that you thought that I knew about it. But I didn't. I didn't think that other people that see it.56:51And what I said to you was No, I didn't know that. That's what I was displaying, is why friendships like this are56:57important. I had no idea that I was displaying all of that negative energy I was shooting, I was a57:04negative energy. What would you say? I would say it was an expression like a low vibration expression.57:11Yeah, you did say low vibration. I like negative better. Because positive negatives when in judgment on it. There's a spectrum, you57:17know, high low. But what else? I'll say this is that we're probably the only57:23ones who talk to each other the way that we talk. And I needed to hear that. You know, I needed to hear that. You know, I think57:32most people watching you know, would be a fool to leave your house without checking the mirror. You can't feel whether57:39things are out of place. You got to look at it. And that is what you did. You like hey, listen, I know you probably can't see57:46this. No big deal. But your caller stuck tagging me. That's what it was. You know, you didn't make a big deal about it.57:55But I needed to hear it because I couldn't see it. Yeah. Yeah. Thank you for being open to receiving it. The only reason I58:04was open I was the only reason I share is because I know you're open to receive it. And we have that report. Yeah. And I know58:11like we're all and I would want you to tell me and my caller was looking sideways. Yeah. And if I was showing him in a certain58:17way. Yeah, I've been more open. Now. I was hanging with some friends. We're all everyone's on this, like high vibration. Like,58:23what's next what's you know, since 3000, everyone's on that. A brand that we all came up to get, has nothing to do with me.58:31I was doing it. But I got this vision. And we're like this58:37really cool ceremony, I got this vision. And the idea was like, this big hand comes out the sky. It's I see everything in story.58:44And it pulls this like this big Raven. In fact, I would paint this Raven afterwards and pulls this thing out of his wing. The58:50Raven looks at the camera because everything of the show and says thank you. And he flies away. What the hell was that?58:58And kind of vision was that? And the idea is like when someone points something about you, right? That is something that59:04you're displaying. It's not you. Right? And your answer should always be right. Your spouse should always be Thank you. You59:11would never get upset if somebody right if you come out the bathroom you have toilet paper on your shoe you wouldn't let I know you got toilet paper in your shoes like to just just59:19say thank you. That is what I'm learning how to do. Right? And we open up to receive and say someone just said something59:26about you that is actually keeping you from flying higher. You should be really in a state of gratitude right now because59:34you could not do that. So So thank you again for being here. I know y'all Listen, we're just loving on each other its entire59:41episode. Right Welcome to our regular hangout, right you know, you know, putting some drama just so glad you called me back.59:53All right. So right now, you know about the tell the truth sessions because you've now experienced your So two or three1:00:00of them, the first at my birthday party last year, which you really influenced when I did my limo ride, but you inspired1:00:08because you said, Daddy, what if you do this for your birthday, and then I did it for my birthday? I'm sorry. You said Tell the truth. Yes, we're doing intelligence.1:00:14Do we also have our back truth tattoos? Oh, that's right. I have to tell the truth and1:00:23truth in time. Thailand. Okay. All right, cool. This is wild. That's right. When I got my tell the truth tattoo. Yeah, I share it with Sean. And1:00:32he said, Do you know what this? My tattoo means that I've had forever from Thailand? And I said, No. And he said, It means1:00:38truth. Yeah, this means true. Alright, let's do it.1:00:44The truth is very important to both of us, you've been able to tell the truth sessions. And what I want to bring to my show1:00:50is the tell the truth sessions. So I think you're one of the only guests who's actually done this in our group of friends.1:00:57But I want everyone to be able to experience this tell the truth session. So right now, I will invite you, if you're1:01:05willing to share truth that you're facing right now. Maybe you haven't shared this yet. Maybe you haven't even shared it1:01:13with yourself, what is the truth that you want to share with me? With you? 4 million people?1:01:22Yes, will take 4 million. The truth that I want to share with you is a strange way to1:01:28approach it. But when you guys tell the story. Yes. Wendy Williams once said on her show that when people get famous or1:01:35they get rich, or they become very successful, the idea is that they change. And then she says no people change around1:01:42you. Right? And my truth is that when you were, you know, when1:01:49you grind, and you were everywhere, in your promotions were everywhere, and Forbes had come out and you were just1:01:56killing the game, and realize that you aren't changing. I was1:02:02changing. And I was trying to figure out how the hell do I1:02:08keep up with this at this speed? And so I retracted for a while because I was like, What do I do? What if she's not proud of1:02:17me? What if she doesn't think the world of me anymore? How do I? How do I1:02:26going on, you're the first person, right? So that is that was hard. You know, and every time I hang out1:02:38with you, you hadn't changed I had. And because you went first in this beautiful course designing business, I got a1:02:50chance to see all of the successes, the mistakes, the1:02:56mishaps, the pickups, right, the things you celebrated. And when1:03:03people started to change around me and said, Hey, I know what you're doing. You're gonna do that homie. I'm saying guy. And1:03:12I attribute that to what I've experienced, not just you from my friends who have gone on to have their own shows and do1:03:19really well in industry. And so I along with a lot of people tend to back away because the idea is, damn, this person might1:03:30not need me anymore. Because at one point, I showed utility in this way in this person's life, so maybe this person doesn't1:03:38need me anymore. What I'm now realizing is that because I'm from Columbus, Ohio, and when our football team Ohio State1:03:46Buckeyes win, it's like I want and so your success is my1:03:51success and my success is your success and there's though we're competitive you know, is that I'll never let that separate1:04:00separate us again thank you for sharing that. I want to hug you for these mics1:04:10overcomes figured out okay, yeah we should probably stop to your1:04:19eyes. I love you so much. Wow. Look like, like break it up.1:04:39So imagine we have our own show. And instead of telling the past and the history we're telling our future, so we get to do in1:04:47this segment. First, we're going to cheers. We're going to cheers with one word. Where did I work? learn one word from Shaun Derik.1:04:55And I use this everywhere. My team uses it at the Beginning of almost all of our meetings, we share one word, JP, our program1:05:03manager when she kicks off our student orientations, our sessions, it is kicked off with everyone Share Your One Word,1:05:10that's your legacy. That's why I said when you left Harlem, you didn't leave Harlem, you're still there. That's your legacy.1:05:18Wherever you go, you leave you. So your legacy is in my entire company. Our 1000s of students now know the practice and the1:05:25ritual of one word. And it's larger than I thought, because it helps us connect with our body, which I was trained to1:05:33connect with my mind and have my mind be the ultimate superpower. And what I'm learning is it's in the body, because we went to the1:05:41human design, you know, workshop, and Richard was talking about he was talking about and that actually had me1:05:48look differently at your exercise of one word, I said Shaun's one word actually helps us get grounded in our body and1:05:55what we're feeling, which is the authority. So what we're gonna do is we're gonna kick off with one word, how we're feeling. And1:06:03then I would love for you to narrate the future. And speak about yourself in third person. What does Sean Derek doing in1:06:11the future? What are we doing? What we what we live in live where we fill in, like, what does your life look like? Where1:06:18are you living? Who you wet? What you doing? Dream? big, bigger, whatever. Yes. All right. What's your one word that1:06:25you're feeling right now? Wow. Okay. My one word is Launchpad.1:06:33Oh, mine is alive. Let's go. That's how you make me feel1:06:38alive. Oh, wait, so you made me feel much better?1:06:46Alright, transport us to the future was your drunken future? Oh, Shaun, Derik about. All right. Where are we right now1:06:53what's happening? I am walking into my building. Going up to the top to meet with1:07:03my writing team. We have several shows on TV. Few shows on1:07:09internet today. The idea is all streaming. But we do content creation. We've got a sector for motivation, inspiration, right1:07:17for education. So we've got engagement strategy for the problem of education. So teaching you and techniques of1:07:23kids are to teachers and to so that kids will get bored in school, we have content creation, for my production1:07:32company. And so we have a team, I'm just walking in, just to meet with the team and see what kind of ideas they came up with.1:07:37And I'm just tweaking them not to say this is good or bad, but more so Hey, have you ever thought of this, and that are1:07:42running with it? So I'm just saying yes to a few projects to go on. And then from there. I'm going to award ceremony in which1:07:49I'm giving awards to other members of my team and our brand1:07:54narrative department for working with brands like Starbucks, like1:07:59Tesla. I have vacation homes around the world and will1:08:06actually start because I'm visiting. So tell me Puerto Escondido believes Bali, for sure. And one because it's1:08:17just a fucking flex. Tokyo. Yes. Tokyo this year. SPIRATION. Helen was inspiration for that1:08:27one. Yeah. Okay. She said we're going to Tokyo, Tokyo. r&d, budget research and development in Tokyo. Let's get the team1:08:35inspired. Inspired. Yeah, I'm meeting with several directors from around the world to teach them my take on storytelling. Right. And the1:08:44point guy for that I'm the Russell Simmons, thank you good night of my company in that regard. And most importantly,1:08:52because it feeds feeds, feeds my soul and fuels miso show, sorry, feeds. And I said that right. That was a 14 slip. But my show.1:09:00I have my own show. Ah, oh, yeah. Stormont show for sure.1:09:05Do we have a name? I do have a name. You don't have to share it. It's okay.1:09:11I can share it. It'll probably change. Boom, right? The show is1:09:17I am the tiniest elephant in the world. And the show is a guy and going into marketing. He's got all of these great ideas. He's1:09:25got no experience. Everything says he shouldn't do this his background where it comes from. And his the his success right or1:09:34survival is dependent on his success. And one of the most challenging and competitive cities in the world. So be it1:09:39here be at Seoul, Korea, Viet Japan, it could really be set anywhere. So it's a fun show about life love. And the lessons1:09:48this kid learns through telling story. Wow, that was clear.1:09:56The first time I ever said it. That was all in there already isn't here because it's already1:10:03happened. It's good for my sacral we learn in1:10:10oh my gosh, I love that. I'm gonna be busy noon all the vacation homes. Oh my god, I love this new role of you1:10:15checking in with your writing team just approving adding a little bit of spice. leading people all over. This is1:10:22amazing. Yeah, I'm excited for that. No, I know. I know. You can just talk to this person for being1:10:31having can just can you help me out? Helen? Helen, I know you own several companies. Hell it. Helen ever since you became1:10:40known as Danielle. Helen ever since you became president, you've been different. You've been different. I know. I said1:10:46People don't change people around them. You ma'am have changed. Okay.1:10:56Oh my gosh, Alex, Alan. Cashew some questions.1:11:01Okay, sure. Maybe one? Maybe one? Was the phone. I missed the1:11:06phone. Are you proud of yourself? Hmm. That is something1:11:18I need to channel right. It's not like a state. So you asking1:11:24me that? I guess Yeah, I would say yes. I would say that. Last night, I went up to my room. And I was in the whole fit. And I1:11:35was reflecting on the night in the evening. And I did think1:11:40about what was in front of me. That day, I thought about the amazing people I was surrounded by who are helping me bring this1:11:49vision to life. I thought about the amazing people who sat on this couch, including the woman who made me my mom. And yeah,1:11:57she was oh, she gave the T. I can't wait to tell you. She is1:12:05that original gangster. So I would say in that moment. Yes.1:12:11And that's why I appreciate projects like this, I think because in the day to day we can forget. Because we're in the day1:12:17to day our project like this there's like a clear like crescendo there is a leading up like an aggressive leading up in1:12:25an aggressive like ramp up. And then it's the who. And there's a1:12:30clear we did it. So yesterday, it was like that midway point where I was like, Oh my gosh, and it was like on the crescendo1:12:38was like this point. Where this Steve, this part was achieved.1:12:43Yeah. And I'm like, oh, tomorrow was just this and tomorrow is gonna be so much fun. So I was really proud. Yeah,1:12:51you as you told me. I'll never forget this now, because I teach this to my team, that you decide when it's time to celebrate. So1:13:01good. What to celebrate. So I'm gonna celebrate you. Oh, thank you. I love you. Thank you. Thank you.1:13:14Shaun, thank you so much for coming on my show. This has been a dream of mine. And when I thought about the people I1:13:22wanted on this show you were at the tip, tip, tip tip tippy top of the list. It means so much for me. I know, there's so much1:13:31going on. And for you to come all the way across the country. To spend this time with me be on the couch means so much for me1:13:40for people to get a glimpse at what I get to experience as your friend. And so for everyone watching, I'm sure that they1:13:48want to know more. You're an incredible speaker, storyteller performer and incredibly self aware and I think a model for so1:13:56many people on what it looks like to really understand through through who you are and how you can impact the world. So1:14:05where is the best place for people to follow you and find you.1:14:11I'm sorry, I stopped listening after he called me a model. I heard model nothing else is important. ShaunDerik.com Sha u1:14:19n d e r k.com. You can follow me on IG to if you want to laugh. I like to bring joy insert joy into every situation. I think1:14:27that's the answer in the cure. And also, I we launched speaker hack, which is a storytelling course. So whether you want to1:14:36get to the you know from the stage or the senator the room story is the most important thing and if you can tell it,1:14:44you can get a new position. You can find your purpose. You can find your place in life. And the idea is if you can be1:14:51interesting. You have the attention of every single person isn't in the room? What would you do with that power is your1:15:00responsibility or your business, but that is the most important thing is learning how to tell an impactful story. And so that's1:15:08what we teach our speakers. So I'm there and they can find that at speaker hack.com. You know, the website is changed. Okay,1:15:17website, you know, check out IG, Shaun Derik. What I will say though, so are when1:15:23he was just this right here, Danny Malachi, below I am see the first time I1:15:28see it. What I will say when you go to Shaun Derik's IG, you will see1:15:35his ability to storytelling through all the characters he creates. And then you will see the link to join him because if1:15:42there is one person you want to learn from, to be able to be a storyteller, whether it's becoming a professional speaker,1:15:49making five figures, six figures, seven figures as a speaker, regardless of the audience, you want to learn from1:15:54him. If you want to learn how to can conduct create, control your story, to sell brand sponsorships to sell yourself as1:16:03an actor as an influencer, whatever it is, it's all the same craft and the same skill. And he teaches that and speaker1:16:10hack. So check him out on IG. All right, and then you'll see the links to find him speaker at1:16:16those amazing, I'm just gonna do mine over I'm just saying if you want to create a that was amazing.1:16:23I'm just saying, Thank you so much. Listen, sometimes life be1:16:28life in and we do not know what's coming down that road next. Well, that's what happened to me in 2016, when I was1:16:35unexpectedly laid off from my job. And I was six figures in student loan debt, I had no savings. And I didn't know what1:16:43was going to happen next. Now luckily, I had this little voice inside of me at that time that I couldn't ignore, and it was1:16:49telling me to take the leap. It was saying use this as your opportunity to build your business. Use this as your1:16:55opportunity to create your dream life. And so I believe that life happens for us, not to us. And that nudge in my spirit, I1:17:04should listen to it. Luckily, I did. Fast forward to today I have a business that's made over $20 million. And I've helped1:17:11over 10,000 people create their online businesses and their dream lives. So do you want to learn how to turn your story1:17:18into an online product and launch in 30 days, head on over to coursefromscratch.com/Since3000.1:17:26I want you to join us on this journey so you can listen to that little voice inside of you too. 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