Past, Present, and Future Generations

0:00It was summertime and you're at the kitchen counter doing homework, and you're diligently like always doing your homework. And TJ, of course, he wants to go play. He0:08doesn't want to do homework, you know, and I'm like, TJ, you've got to go do homework. And he's like, I don't have to do homework. I don't have to do homework. I want to be Superman.0:17I don't want to go to school, I want to be Superman. And you just got off the counter very quietly, very calmly, and you0:23you went to him, you say, teach a Superman has to know about geography. And Superman has to know math, because he needs to0:31know how many times to go around the world to get to his the people he's going to rescue Superman has to has to go to0:38school. He knows that he needs to know these things. And so I was done. I didn't know what to say. Because you shamed me.0:44Right. You took the highway, you showed him how and why he needed to do his homework, because we need a smart Superman.0:57I'm so excited to bring you today's episode. But before we do, I need to make sure you've heard about member up. So1:03community driven products are the future. But Facebook groups are a thing of the past. And after 10 plus years in the1:10online education space, I've taken all my learnings and I've built this incredible platform member up. It's a customizable1:18easy to use all in one platform where you can build a premium course community or membership site without the tech headache,1:26gone are the days of having to duct tape together, your content, your community, your payments, all on different1:33platforms, I want you to do me a favor, do yourself a favor and head over right now to member up.com Ford slash Danielle. And1:41you can get started for free today. I promise you, I can't wait for you to see this platform. It's beautiful. Okay,1:47the design is amazing your community is going to feel at home here and you are going to take pride in your online1:53business, it is the place to start, head over to member of.com Ford slash Danielle. Now let's get into the episode. I2:01thought it would be really cool to have you on I mean, you are my best friend, you've been my best friend from the time I came2:06out the womb, I think of you as my first thought partner. When I think about my life and everything I've created. I'm2:12like, I feel like I've just had the right people in close proximity. And I've always had a great thought partner. And you were my OG thought partner, I did a treat session with my2:20friend Lisa. And it's a two hour session. And her goal is to ask you a series of questions. And at the very end of it to2:27reintroduce yourself to yourself. At the end. I remember I did my truth session and it was like a two hour session. And2:35I was really hungover from the night before. So it was great. I was just like speaking like, truthfully, from the hip. And2:40she asked you everything about how you feel who you are. And by the very end, she summarized and she pretends like she's2:49introducing you and bringing you on stage somewhere. And for me, she was bringing me on to the TED stage. And so she says2:55welcome to the stage Danielle Leslie, the author of I see you and you belong. And that was the title she gave like my you know,3:03fictitious future book. And then I gifted this same truth session3:09to you. So you did the true session with Lolita. And in your truth session, because you've always had aspirations to write3:17a book. Yes, she gave you a title for your book. Do you remember what the title of your book? was? It was same vibe.3:27Yeah. So this was around the time that Michelle Obama's becoming book came out. Two Wars was called a long. Yes, that's3:35right. And so I remember you told me that and you said, I'm so this session with Lolita. And you know, she said, um, you3:41know, my book is going to be called belonging. And I was like, that's interesting. So I shared this with rosemary, my3:49spiritual adviser. And I said, and we were having a session, and it's actually before I shared this, and I was just3:56telling her, you know, rosemary, I feel so alone, I feel so lonely. I don't have any friends. I don't belong and ever4:01have. And she's like, wait a minute, you just visited crystal in LA, you talked to Tara earlier, you're doing all these4:07things? Where are you getting this from? That you don't belong? And I thought about it. And she's like, is there anyone4:13in your life who has thought they don't belong? And I realized, Oh, my goodness, that is something that you I feel4:20like identify with. And I thought about our truth session. And I shared it with rosemary, and she said, Wait a minute. So4:28your mom's book was belonging. And your title was I see you, you belong. She said, Do you realize that your book is an4:37answer to your mom? It is telling her I see you. You4:42belong. Yes. For all of my life, I felt I didn't belong. And I realized I4:49had carried your Yeah, no, I know. And I feel so bad. That's right. And I did tell I4:55felt so bad about that because it's true. I mean, even being born in a foreigner Country in Panama and having my friends5:02there. And and, you know, we were split between, you know, the American community and the Panamanian community, and this,5:08like, Where do I belong? So thankfully, they didn't invent a term for people like me there, which was zoning in. And then5:16coming to the states, it was the same thing. So I think I've carried that throughout my entire life. And I think I'm5:22still to a certain degree, I'm still struggling with that, but I think I've resolved to just looked at, I'm looking at it as5:30a plus. Because when you to me when this so called belonging,5:35and when you you pigeonhole yourself into this, these cliques, you know, cliques, you know, so and so on, and so5:42forth, you it's almost like you're, you're obligated to stay in them. Whereas, if we flit around like butterflies and5:50whatnot, in different areas, different when you're traveling from LA to, you know, all over the world, Spain, whatever,5:57whatever, you know, we're making more and more connections, whereas when we're belonging, in this in these small groups of6:06whatever it is, whether it's a sorority or certain network, or whatever, we're kind of, like, feel obligated to this group.6:15Whereas to me, you're spreading your wings, and you're just, so I'm looking at it now differently. And I look at it as6:22he plus, you know, and it's just like, when you if you moved around from school to school, when you were little, because we6:28did movie, and and you would say but how we're moving again, where and I would say to you, well, that's how you you're6:35gonna make more friends, you're as you're moving to these different places, you're gonna you're making new new friends6:41each where you go, place you go. And so your Rolodex is just building up, I love that. I was gonna say that, what I've learned is, it's6:50so interesting how your, I would say, quote, unquote, you know,6:55feeling lack of belonging, or, you know, I also saw it as you7:01never putting yourself as you said, in a box. And it's interesting that my entire business is built around being a7:08culture ad and using your cultural advantage and honing in on what makes you different, as opposed to thinking about what7:14makes you the same and what makes you quote, unquote, belong. And I always say that I created a course from scratch7:20and created this community for the people who were the first, you know, the first to do things who didn't feel like they had a7:25community or had anyone around them with the same label. And so it's so interesting that it's almost like your legacy has, you7:33know, been brought to life through me and like my mission, and it's a big core part of my mission. And I wouldn't say it7:39made it, it was my biggest strength, but you know, was never really, I used to identify myself, as you know, nice and,7:47like, smart and successful. Right? Like, I didn't even think about race, gender, age, any of those things until much later.7:54And I thank you for that. You know, you always like really? Do you remember what you used to pray for? For me? And just so at8:01night? Oh, gee, you prayed that we would have always well, compassion. Yes. And I still to this day, that you8:10would always have compassion. And yes, that's just very important and that you share yourself that meaning any good8:18parts about you that you're that you share those among those around you and your community, etc.8:26Yeah. And I would say one thing that really stands out is how you always have I think, a top value of honesty and8:32transparency. And just from when I was little You encouraged me to just like, tell the truth. Yeah. You know, see how that's8:40influenced me had the sign the tell the truth sign right there. I even had a recession. But I think you really, like impacted8:48me and you made it you created a safe space for me to just say whatever. Yeah, so I've told you things even TMI I've told you8:53about. Yes. And psychedelic we talked before something Yes. But9:00I love that you gave me like the safe space to do that. And I never felt judgment from you. You always like Okay,9:08interesting. And so one thing I love about you is this like inquisitive nature. Where do you think that came from?9:15Oh my goodness. I think to be honest, inquisitiveness came from being a middle child and not having anyone to interact9:25with so I was left to my own devices and my own you know, inventions and however I entertained myself my own9:34entertainment right. And so and so just one thing I was curious about everything, you know, just just about everything whether it9:42was living beings or you know the swamps around me or the the frogs in the street or the crabs or the rain or my chemistry set9:50or whatever it was people are, you know how my parents entertained everything I was just, you know, just inquisitive9:57about and One thing I love doing was watching people and making10:02up stories about, oh, what's that person thinking? Or what are they going to do next? Or, Oh, they're doing that? Because10:08so and so that is so true. And mean, just so we always talked about that, that like you10:14were always making them narratives about the neighbors like when we I was living with you in Redondo Beach. And you'd10:19be like, yeah, so I think that is her husband. And he's like, coming back from a long business trip. And I think like, what he10:25was doing on the business trip was making her upset, like, you would just make up these narratives. But I think we that trained me to do was to think about the why of someone's10:33behavior, instead of jumping to conclusions, like judging them, but actually knowing like, oh, there's a why, like, just10:39knowing there's a reason for how they're showing up. And therefore, there's a reason for why I'm showing up this way, or10:45like I behaved in this way, I don't know, I think I learned from you to always know, like, always think about the context,10:51you know, for why people act in a certain way, that there's some bigger reason that I may not know, and to not judge them for10:57it, but to really like, accept, yeah, we don't know what's going on with people, you know, and I11:02try, it's hard not to, it's hard not to judge and I, you know, I thank you for praising me in that way. But I think, you know,11:10actually, I think of Giselle, whenever I think the judge where judgment comes into my mind, I do think about just all because11:16she's the one who would always you're being judgmental, you're being judged. And I think one day I finally said, What do you11:22mean by just what is Judge being judgmental? To break down? What is breaking down? What does it mean? So what do you know? And11:30well, I guess, in my mind, right, then I was not being judgmental, because a judgmental person to me would be, oh, well,11:37you're, you're, you're no good because you're, you know, your, your, your, your, your stealing or because you're doing11:44hardcore, the hardcore drugs. So, you know, I had to rethink what is, you know, what is that? What is this word? Judgment?11:52Even Steve would tell me, oh, you know, St. Your, you judge people. And so many times before, I would form opinions,12:00you know, because I would my, you know, I would retort by saying, I'm just opinionated. That's all. And then, well, what12:07do you think judgmental is? And anyway, it's, um, yeah, so it's,12:12it's, it's something I'm, I'm coming to terms with that I, I am to a certain degree, but I allow people as well, as long as12:20you know, they're not walking off the cliff where I have to grab them, then, you know, I feel that, yes, allow people to12:27be who they are, you know, as long as you're not walking off the cliff. So. So it's, I'm not perfect in that regard. I do12:35think about it, I do contemplate it. And I weigh everything. Yeah, before I say something negative or judgmental? Yeah.12:45One of the things I really love about you is how you allowed me12:50to be myself, and to pursue whatever I found interesting.12:55You didn't have a prescribed list of things that you wanted me to be or aspire to.13:01I know, right? I didn't, I didn't really live vicariously13:06through you. But I sort of did, actually. And because, but I mean, you came blazing into this world. That's how you came,13:15meaning meaning that you did use like, get everybody out of my way. You had your checklist coming into this world, you13:21know, I'm gonna do this, that the other because everything as a toddler as a baby, you did so early, right? Because it's like,13:28I've got things to do. I've got places to go. And you learn to walk early, talk early experiences early. So experience13:36I when I like learn to walk, oh, my gosh, well, you were I would say you were less than you weren't even a year old yet,13:42when you started staying in like, you know, whether it was your ABCs. And you're counting from one to 10, you know, and13:50your memory skills were pretty strong, obviously, because that's the way you would have learned them. Even the experiences when your dad was had a habit of eating these Ritz13:59crackers and cheese together. And you would just crawl up and want some of that and he would give you an offer a cracker. And14:06you would know you wanted both, you would want the cheese and one hand, the cracker and this is to you this is less than less14:13than a year old. And you would put them together like this, because you wanted the experience what he was having.14:20You wanted the experience he was having. Right. So you so yeah, but and you know, and at two and a half, I didn't know what14:26possessed me to think to ask you. What do you want to be when you grow up at two and a half? I mean, who knows? I showed you a14:33book with all these professions. It was a children's book. And you said, Well, you want to be a doctor that takes care of the14:38mommy when she's having the baby said, Oh, well, that's an obstetrician. And so that seed was in my brain. And so when you14:47got to high school, you know and you know, you got into the health careers Academy in high school. And you were doing all14:55of that then was something else and you want it you were interested in it. In, in, in arguments, they have the mock15:02trials. And so you try out, right debating and so on. And you love that too. And I mean, and you were on the basketball15:10team, you did well, with that you were, you know, tennis, you play tennis. And so just everything you set out to do.15:18You were, you know, you just really good, but it's the indication you gave me right when you showed showed me you15:24had an interest Oh, in, in dancing, even in the night,15:29exposed you to those things, and you would then decide you will do like it or not. piano lessons. I know, that was one of15:37the the times when I was I felt had to hold myself back. Because15:45you were exposed to piano lessons. You You were taking it and so on. You started out with having a sort of a group15:52session. And then I wanted you to have more of a private, you know, private tutoring. And so we went, we started go into15:58them. Yeah, as soon as Barbara right. And what I found was that you thrived more in the group session, I think it was more of16:07a competition for you. And you were the best student there. And I thought, Well, if she's the best student in a group setting,16:13she could be even better if we if we give her private sessions. And here, you know, so we had the private sessions. And then16:21you finally one day said, No, I don't want to do this anymore. Because, you know, Miss Barbara kept, you know, advancing me.16:30And you felt that you weren't, you weren't perfecting each piece each week. And she was and yet she was advancing you. So16:36you kind of took yourself out of it. He didn't want to do it anymore. You know, and I was so disappointed in that particular16:42I never said anything. You know, when I think to this day, I'll I'll kind of remind you, you play the piano?16:49Well, yeah, I do remember that with piano within that instance, the expectation is for you to practice, yes. Like, almost16:56every day. Yeah, every day, you know, put some effort into hours every day. And I remember it would be like 7pm on Tuesdays17:03that we would go to Miss Barbara. And I would practice at like, you know, 5pm from five to six until we had to leave at17:10six. And I just remember knowing that I wasn't doing what I was supposed to do, you know, and I said, and that's where I felt17:17like it was incongruent. It was into it wasn't integrative. Is that the word? Integris? Like, not in integrity? Is that a17:24word? Did I make that? I don't know. I'm not gonna lie. I don't know.17:30But I didn't feel it integrity. Yeah, because I knew that I was playing once a week for an hour, maybe 30.17:36And I realized about you, and I said, you know, I shouldn't be applauding her, then, you know, then being a little bit17:42disappointed about it, because she knows what she isn't doing. And what it takes to be, you know, to be, you know, a good17:51pianist. In a sense, I was applauding you, but I was a little bit, you know, hoping that you would go on with it and17:56give it more of a try. But you knew what you wanted to do what you liked. And like I said, You came blazing into this world.18:02You knew what you wanted to do when and you didn't have time for this. And you would go on to the next and and so and I think18:10that's what you're you continue to do. Hey, this is Danielle Leslie, and I have a question for you.18:15If you are a creative entrepreneur, and your business is unique, why are you working with a generic accountant? One18:22of the best decisions I made was who I would partner with on my taxes and my accounting. So if you're creative entrepreneur,18:29you are growing your business you're scaling your business, I want to introduce you to revel. Revel is a firm that can help18:35you whether you're looking to prepare your taxes, or you're looking for that year round support. 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One thing I'll say is what I picked up from you is you are always you've always20:25been very ambitious, you've always focused on I remember coming home with the report card, and I would have the like,20:33all A's and like the B plus. And then dad would be like, golden child, and he would be like, you know, dancing around the20:41kitchen, like, yes. And then you'd be like, Oh, Danny, come here. What is this b plus, in social studies? What happened20:47here? And I told you this, you know, I so appreciate that. I had both, you know, I had dad who was like, affirming, and20:53he's like, celebrating. And then, you know, you were really focused on Okay, and that's great. And what about this gap?21:01Let's close this gap. So I think that's always had me look at just be committed to growth, you know, and like, and like, Okay,21:07what, what can I do to close the gap? But another thing from I think, from you is just like your level of, you have, I21:15think, just this high level of energy and like zest for life? I21:21mean, how would you describe even now, when you wake up? I'm curious, how do you think about the day? What are you feeling?21:27Well, first, I do try, I thank God for that for the new day. And, you know, and for improving on, you know, you know, an21:36improvement from the day before, whether it was, you know, my attitude, my behavior, whatever it was, but let it be a learning21:43experience today. Right. And, but it's usually in my, it's a checklist, it's like a long list. That's what I wake up with21:52each and every day. It's never, there's never moments. I don't21:57want to call it peace. But, you know, a quiet, there's not,22:03there's not really a you know, and if there is I don't take the time, it's like, my, it's like Steve's cousin came in a few22:10weeks ago to visit us and she saw my, you know, my freestanding bathtub, and how lovely it was with a candle and22:17place for the wineglass and the and the place for a book or, or the or my or a tablet or something and, and all the22:24niceties that goes you know, that will go that it goes. But how often do you get in there and enjoy it? How often do you22:30really let yourself go and just linger and just relax? And? And not very often, right? Not very often. Because if I if I when I22:38do get in there, my mind still racing. Right? It's my mind is still racing. So I can't seem to quiet my mind.22:48Interesting. Yeah. I remember when I moved back in with you in22:54Redondo Beach when I was broke, and I was staying with you. And like every I feel like it was every other day, I would have a23:00new business idea. And you have always you'd be just as excited about the idea on Monday, as you were on Wednesday, as you were23:07on Friday. And it was always like a new show idea or Yeah, business. And I love that you were just as excited. And then I23:15look at you yourself. And you're an example of this. Because I mean, now you just came back from Atlanta from a voiceover23:22conference. Yeah. You're like studying voice over. You had your green truffles. Business? Yeah, right. Yeah. You started23:29an E commerce site. Right. And you set up the site yourself? Yes. You found a supplier for the clothes, right? Yeah. And23:37you're working on a children's book. Right. Are you still Yeah. And memoir? Yeah, it's gonna be a children's series and a memoir. But it's going to be I don't know about23:45the memoir part. Because it's, I wouldn't be very honest about it. So it's going to be what is the other literary term? Not in23:52my memoir, but no. Oh, gosh, it escapes me right now. Not an autobiography. No, that's it. Oh, my goodness. Anyway. It's24:02short of a memoir. But you change the you change the genre, because it's, it's, you sort of want to hide behind it. You24:12know, I can't think of the literary term right now. But anyway, so yeah, I'm working on those things. And as Steve calls24:19them, idea does your you know, he chooses me every morning I'll wake up. Oh, I was thinking I have another one actually. Oh,24:25really? I want no, no, I this evening is here. So I want to24:30write up the business plan and then I'm gonna present it to you. I just, you have an idea. Because we I kind of mentioned24:36it to you a while ago. My favorite brand little set. Okay, you know, Oh, good. So brand. Yeah. Okay.24:48Swap and trade. But I haven't Yeah, it's it's I think it's a great idea. But, yeah, but it's my idea du jour. So, yeah, it's25:00Um, I think if we just keep coming up with those and that Yeah, I know you get that, but why not? Why not be enthusiastic25:06about each and every one of them as we wake up, you know, and to me, it's like, you know, something will stick, right? You25:14keep, you know, throwing them out having these ideas, something will stick, and it will work out it and I'm sure25:20it'll be very successful. And so, so yeah, I there's nothing.25:27I don't think it's a flaw at all. Yeah, and I think that you even growing up you, you exposed us25:33to as many different experiences as possible whether it's easiest different things or so. Yeah, yeah. And so I think they call25:40it to your even like, personal life and expression like with my25:47birthday, you and your cell, we're going to surprise me with something What were you going to surprise me? Shut it down. But25:53you did that was too bad. I was so looking for two. So that was gonna be like a stream. It's we're all we were, we had it all25:59planned out. We're gonna invite a just a few of your, you know, your, your, your closest friends and, and Helen, of course, and I26:06went in and we were gonna do pole dancing. We're gonna I had my wig painted, picked. Oh, I had a platinum straightaway.26:14Well, you know, did you have? Like, oh, well, that was coming. And I mean, I was just getting I was26:23just getting ready for this. I was YouTubing. And reading my lesson. Oh, hang on.26:32You don't have to do any research at you? Well, yeah, no, I do. I think I spend more time and I do26:39anything, any little thing that comes my way. I just research it to death, everything and you know, anything to that pertains26:47to you. And just all you know, and to myself, you know, I research because one thing I just like things to be as26:52credible as possible. And you know, and sometimes we may not be as original original as as you know, as we can be. But, you26:59know, we make it our own. And so that's and so you can only do that if you research right? And number one, it's just, you know,27:06researching is good. In many ways. It shows you how to do things. You have to learn the rules numerator in order to27:11break them and make them your own. Right. So that's good. Yeah. Because I always saw you as creating your27:17own thing. One of the things that really stands out is even in your relationship, you're very independent. So I remember27:24you're like, you know, we can live in different homes. Homes. Oh my gosh. Oh, right. Oh, yeah. Yeah, his and hers. That's what27:29I called it. As long as his it's across town. Not, not next door.27:35Not next door. You're not going to come knocking every hour in the orc walking in it. No. As long as it's across town. Yes.27:43That that would would be an ideal in even to this day in in.27:49Yes. I would love that. Yes. And then when you you probably not gonna allow me to talk about27:55this. Mommy, when you guys lived in Spain. With the barista. Can I say that? Oh, yeah. All right. All right. So this is why I love28:08my mom. And this is why like, We are the same person. So what I love is, yeah, you create your own rules. And remember, you28:15guys moved to Spain. Yes. And you told me how the barista was28:21really beautiful. And you were like, trying to like hook. Steve up with the barista? Yeah, well,28:27okay, so, yeah. Well, you know, it just came it's always been28:33that way. I think from the get go and you know, they're in the relationship. I don't think I'm a very jealous person. I don't28:40think I am. About anything. Right. And so if the person but28:47yeah, but in a case of real of a relationship, I feel if the person's for you there for you. Right. And, you know, whatever28:55goes whatever. So yes, the we lived up in a beautiful apartment on the fourth floor in San Saba Stan.29:03Beautiful, beautiful water the ocean was the ocean to one side and then the mountain to Mongolia to29:11the next. It was just awesome. And then the coffee shop29:16downstairs. And so I mean, that's where he would just hang out a lot and and I saw the flirtation going on oh, you do I29:25saw the flirtation and, and so but she couldn't figure it out and they hit people. I know people I think to this day,29:33people see us together and they can't figure out and maybe it's because we're not hanging on. I'm not hanging on you know,29:40like I'm hanging on tight in your mind and this you know, so they just can't figure it out. They see looseness they're in29:45the relationship. So and I think that's you know, when so I think that gave the the barista license to like, come on to him29:53and I encouraged him I said, You know what, go ahead and go you know, you know, go visit with her. I know she was moving29:59close. to us and I, I encouraged I encouraged him now whether anything happened or? I don't know, but I doubt it. I doubt30:07it. But yeah, I, I love that though. I mean, because you you mentioned earlier, you don't see yourself as a jealous person, what I'm30:14hearing in that is you, and I see this in you, you're very grounded and comfortable in who you are. And you know what you30:22have to offer. And you know how to make yourself happy, you know, that joy comes from within, I think it shows with30:29all your different areas of interest, you don't rely externally on someone else to make you feel complete or whole.30:35And so you're like, This is me, I'm grounded, I am whole. And I see you as a independently minded whole person with your30:42own set of desires and needs. And if you would like to choose to spend this time with this other person, that doesn't30:49impact my opinion of myself, or my wholeness, that, if that's additive for you, then it's additive for me, and for a unit.30:56That's what I hear when I yeah, it's just yeah, because otherwise, you're, you're,31:02you're holding a person back from their own happiness, right. And so you have to sort of like, give them license to be happy,31:09you know, whether, you know, it's, it's, but But I expect you to do the same for me, allow me to be happy and whatever that31:17might be. So that's, that's the key to, you know, just being happy, whatever makes him happy. If he if my you know, husband,31:24partner, whatever it is, needs to see somebody else or go whatever it is, but my thing is, like, it's just the consequences31:33look just like you and just saw it growing up, and I feel that I I've just ingrained in you, you know, you have to think about31:42consequences. If you're about to do something, if you're, you know, flirting with with certain actions, or whatever it is, you31:49think about what the outcome might be. And if you can live with the outcome, then I say go ahead, go ahead. But if you31:56whatever those consequences are that are happy, or they they're hurtful to whether it's yourself or somebody else, then you know32:03the answer don't just don't that is that is it? Yeah. So I love that distinction of again, you're and I would I love32:10that user and never been prescriptive. You never said, you know, what I do will also work for you. So do what I do.32:18In order you said, you know, whatever they do, like, do what they do, it works for you. But it is this, I think this question for you to consider for yourself, like does this work32:26for you try it on, if it doesn't know, think through holistically the consequences. I really like. Yeah, I love that. Yeah, yeah.32:36Well, thank you for sharing that. Oh, Mommy, I just want to32:43thank you for everything. I mean, I really, I told you this, I think maybe like a month ago or something that I truly know32:53that I wouldn't be here without you. I really see you as like my OG thought partner and my best friend forever and ever. From33:01day one. I've always felt free to tell you everything. And I love what I love about myself is also what I love about you. So I33:09love myself, just how I love you. Because like I see myself so much in you. And just thank you for just being like the most33:18amazing example and given me the freedom to like become my own person. And I know like all of this is because of you. So33:28incredible. You were you were really like put here to you know, guide me and33:34I don't know about that. Because it's I don't know, it's a true partnership. I think we were paired together. It's definitely33:40not not just one side and not because, you know, I'm I was going to be the person to guide you throughout. Well, I think33:46it's like a win win. Definitely. Because you've taught me so much as well. You know, you have in corrected me and you have shown33:56me a different perspective on things. And so I think that34:02yeah, I think it's, it's, it's just very, very complimentary.34:07What we have together, Oh, I love that I put it's like a partnership. So you know that34:13I mean, I want kids one day. So I'm curious, we talked a lot about how you are as a parent, I'm curious, how do you think34:20I'm going to be as a mom? Well, I know you've been praising me a lot about my34:26motherhood and how I am how I parent and so on. But I really, really feel that you're going to be 1000 times better than I am34:35meaning that those kids are going to just, you know, they34:40are going to come blazing into the world and you're going to you're, you're you're gonna you talk about the the freedom I34:46gave you and I mean, I see these children, they're going to have34:53so much more. You're going to have every answer to every question. Um, you're going to, you know, guide them and show35:05them, you know, life experiences. And I know they're going to be so well, so, you know, so good and everything35:10they do. And but that's because of, you know, of you, I think you're going to, you're going to just allow them to be, you're35:17going to do it even better than I have, you know, you know, with you, you're there. So I think that just a few examples as as,35:27as a child, my goodness, you were, you must have been, well just think at two, two and a half years old when you're Tying35:35shoelaces. And I'm with you at because you love to teach right? You like to teach you like to show people how to do things,35:42you know, a better you, you know better way, you may find out how to cut corners, but doing an equality way and sort of way.35:49But you know, what, two and a half years old when you're Tying shoelaces, and we're at a fourth of July party, and this kid35:56who's nine years old running around with his shoelaces untied, and you just stop him at two and a half. You stopped him36:03in his tracks, and you bent down and you tied his shoelaces together. And his parents were looking like, How old is she,36:11you know, and you're showing this kid how to tie his own shoelaces and was homework time and we had teacher, your cousin,36:17you know, overnight, and it was homework time and you're at the kitchen counter doing homework, and you're diligently like36:23always doing your homework. Right. And, and TJ, of course, he wants to go play, he doesn't want to do homework. And, and36:31you know, and I'm TJ, you've got to go do homework. And he's like, I don't have to do homework, I don't have to do homework, I want to be Superman. I don't want to go to school, I36:40want to be Superman. And you just got off the counter very quietly, very calmly, and you you went to him you say TJ36:48Superman has to know about geography. And Superman has to know math because he needs to know how many times to go round36:55the world to get to his the people he's going to rescue you need to you need Superman has to has to go to school, he knows37:02that he needs to know these things. And so I was done. I didn't know what to say. Because you shamed me. Right. You took37:08the highway, you showed him how and why he needed to do his homework, because we need a smart Superman. Right? And so37:19and so being you know, just those are just a couple of examples. And and the time when you when you got that B plus you37:25talked about earlier, the reason you got it because I I went to the teacher, I went to the teacher, I mean, like I did they37:33they were tired of seeing me I was in there, I would say look, it's not like I you know, I'm a board, house mom with nothing to37:40do I pay attention to my what my my child's telling me every day after school because I question every single thing every, every37:49single day I question. So I want to make sure that she's paired nicely, you know, with with the right teacher, she's in the37:56right class that stimulating to her. And so and then when I went in, and I found out the reason you got that v plus was because38:05you would just get up. And it's not because you were doing poor work, it's because you were getting up and in the teachers38:12mind you were being disruptive, you would get up and go help the other students how to do their work. Yeah, and you would just,38:19and so you and that's what you do, you would just help the other students. Right? And, and so you've always been that kind38:28of person who would edify others Little did I know, from being wanting to be a doctor, maybe an attorney, and then maybe not so38:37much as a doctor, but as scientists, when you you got accepted into that Stanford scholarship program for that38:45summer to learn about genetics, you know, at the genome center, right. And so and so from, and the reason you said you change38:54you said, from wanting to be a doctor, and wanting to be a scientist, because you can do more for humanity, right for39:02humanity as a whole, not just the patient that would come in to see you, you know, everyday but yeah, humanity as a whole.39:09And I thought that was just very in depth of you. You know that you came to that at just 12 years old? You know, actually,39:17yeah, about 1314 years old, you came to that realization. So I think you're going to be a terrific mother. I can't wait to39:23see it. And, and so yeah, I just can't wait to see it. Whether39:28it's going to be whether it's boy, girl are both, you're going to be a terrific mother, or we'll let them determine their own gender. You know, I'm39:36saying that's true, but no, that's true. Thank you, Mommy.39:44Oh, well, thank you. I just want to thank you for being on. This was so special to have you on the show to share you with the39:52world because I've been able to experience you Giselle, who's right off camera right there. My little sister little son So40:00she's a grown ass woman, but you know, younger sister having her here, but we've been able to experience you, you know, for40:07the last decades, and this was so special to bring you on. And it's half the world also experienced you, and have a40:13glimpse into how amazing you are. So thank you for being on the show. And for Yeah, I just love you. I love you since 3000.40:21And I love you to40:27listen, sometimes life be life in and we do not know what's coming down that road next. Well, that's what happened to me40:35in 2016 when I was unexpectedly laid off from my job. And I was six figures in student loan debt, I had no savings, and I40:42didn't know what was going to happen next. 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